whatatodo Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 I posted on here a while ago about the guy I'm seeing saying 'I love you' to me a fair few times, he did it again last night over dinner, but in a silly way, pointing at his eye, then heart then me, and all I could do was take a sip of my wine, he did it again, and I reacted in the same way so I asked what he was doing and he asked me to say what he was saying and I couldn't. I don't know why I couldn't, actually I do. This guy hurt me before when we first dated last year and broke up, his choice not mine... we're now 6 months in and needless to say I DO love him, and would love to say it to him, but I'm scared to incase it scares him, even though he's saying it to me. How am I to know he's not just playing with me....? Scared to say it incase I lose him!? Crazy or what? Can anyone advise on how I deal with this? How I bring it up, how I might even say it to him myself, any advice greatly received!! x Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 say it when you feel it. if he pressures you too much, i'd flag that actually. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 My boyfriend said I love you after three months. I didnt say it back immediatley, he didnt say it again until I said it. Dont say it till your ready. Its not easily taken back. Link to comment
whatatodo Posted March 5, 2009 Author Share Posted March 5, 2009 Thing is, I do feel it, I stop myself from saying it all the time. I think he has to know how I feel the way I act with him... I'm just scared of saying too much... hey ho! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 oh yeah duh...guess i could have put an example. stupid ghost. so, i had an ex long ago that said it within the first 2 weeks. we saw each other everyday. anyways, i didn't say it back and didn't say it for another 9 months. when i did say it, we got it one for like 2 days straight. lol we ended up together 4.5 years. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 If hes said it first, and you feel it, just say it back. I suprised my guy he was leaving and I just went 'byee love you' Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 Thing is, I do feel it, I stop myself from saying it all the time. I think he has to know how I feel the way I act with him... I'm just scared of saying too much... hey ho! maybe you just don't want to say it because he says it all the time and you might think that if you stay it you will both start saying it too much and it will become bleak. Link to comment
DN Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 I think it more likely that you will lose him if you don't say it back. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 Only say it IF you mean it. And don't worry....you can NEVER say it too much. Link to comment
whatatodo Posted March 7, 2009 Author Share Posted March 7, 2009 Thank you everyone. I do feel it I'm just scared to say it as he's hurt me before... that's the only reason... Link to comment
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