alexrox Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 Here's the story. I started dating this amazing girl, everything was perfect. We had everything in common, amazing conversation, and when we kissed it was just incredible. We got a little sexual but didn't have intercourse, but just about everything else. She'd always constantly text me, saying how happy she is that she met me, how much she misses me ect, and I started thinking the same. I felt like we had this perfect connection and that I've finally found someone I could easilly see myself with. Everything went smoothly until the two week mark. At the two week mark, she stopped texting me, calling me, ect. If I sent her a text saying that I missed her, she'd reply in a very cold manner and pretty much ignoring the fact I said I missed her. I got a little concerned but figured maybe she was having a bad day. The next day, I sent her an email while we were both at work asking how her day was and throwing in a joke to lighten the mood of being at work. The reply I got nearly gave me a heart attack. She wrote that she thinks I'm an amazing guy and it's nothing specific but she just doesn't feel that romantic connection with me. She even said that she thought that it totally sucked that she didn't feel that way because she loved spending time with someone that she had so much in common with. Also, she said she doesn't even want to be friends because she's afraid it'll turn into a friends with benefits kinda thing. I don't know what to do... I feel as if someone I've been with for over a year just dumped me, but it's only been two weeks. I've never let something like this bother me before considering it's so short. I don't understand why I feel so depressed... That makes me feel rejected on not just one level, but two. She doesn't wanna date me, nor does she wanna be friends. I don't know what I did that was so horrible that she'd change so quickly. What do I say to her? What do I do to make myself feel better? BAH! I'm going nuts and I don't know why I'm letting this bother me so much, it shouldn't bother me at all... ](*,) Link to comment
Dubb Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 Just say No problem. That's it. Give it a few days and you should be fine. Get back on the horse man. The right one is waiting and you might miss her by wasting your time thinking of this one. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 you cannot be friends man. no way. you will still have those feelings for her. sucks man. happens to us all. some people are okay just blowing off others. i'd be lying if i said i haven't done it. meet other girls. get out there again. easiest way. Link to comment
alexrox Posted March 5, 2009 Author Share Posted March 5, 2009 Nah, we didn't fight at all, or even argue. Why her? That's a good question.. She just seemed absolutely amazing, I've never met a girl quite like her and felt like I could be myself around her more than I've ever been before. Yeah I've tried even just looking at other girls and it's messed up, but I keep thinking about her.. It's so friggen bad. Yeah I just sent her a reply saying that it's cool and blah blah.. Trying to make it sound like it doesn't bother me lol. I think what's bothering me most though is the fact that she kept telling me how great I was, how much she liked me, how different I was, then boom. There's a brick wall and she doesn't think so anymore. It's quite a big hit on my ego right now. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 Nah, we didn't fight at all, or even argue. Why her? That's a good question.. She just seemed absolutely amazing, I've never met a girl quite like her and felt like I could be myself around her more than I've ever been before. Yeah I've tried even just looking at other girls and it's messed up, but I keep thinking about her.. It's so friggen bad. Yeah I just sent her a reply saying that it's cool and blah blah.. Trying to make it sound like it doesn't bother me lol. I think what's bothering me most though is the fact that she kept telling me how great I was, how much she liked me, how different I was, then boom. There's a brick wall and she doesn't think so anymore. It's quite a big hit on my ego right now. then you aren't ready. you have to get over her. hopefully really really quick. it would help to get out on the town with the boys though and meet some girls. Link to comment
yumicecream Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 She isn't interested anymore. Something changed her mind. Maybe it went too fast for her or she wasn't ready for a relationship. Link to comment
coolgirl Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 She isn't interested anymore. Something changed her mind. Maybe it went too fast for her or she wasn't ready for a relationship. Yea, thats it maybe all this happened to fast and yalls emotions are all over the place. I think if you gave yourself time and her time then u would know what you exactly want from each other. Link to comment
Dubb Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 The more you say to her the more it may appear to bother you. I noticed when I say no problem to a situation like that there have been times where the women has got back in touch with me. Not always, but it has happen a few times. Link to comment
grymoire Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 bro you got too attached too soon.... i bet she went back to an ex or met some one else..... let her go and move on to someone else... and next time don't get attached in just 2 weeks regardless of how wonderful or perfect the girl may be... PS: she is totally right about not wanting to be just friends... Link to comment
alexrox Posted March 5, 2009 Author Share Posted March 5, 2009 The more you say to her the more it may appear to bother you. I noticed when I say no problem to a situation like that there have been times where the women has got back in touch with me. Not always, but it has happen a few times. Yeah in my reply I told her it's no problem and I wish her luck and all that stuff. She replied saying "Wow, you really are a great guy for understanding and not * * * * * ing me out like other guys." I'm kinda hoping that by playing it cool that maybe she'll contact me eventually, but who knows. bro you got too attached too soon.... i bet she went back to an ex or met some one else..... let her go and move on to someone else... and next time don't get attached in just 2 weeks regardless of how wonderful or perfect the girl may be... PS: she is totally right about not wanting to be just friends... I didn't even realize that I got attached so quickly till she ended it, and I know that I didn't show that to her either. I don't think she went to an ex because she just moved to this city a month ago from the other side of the country, but I guess maybe she found someone else... Funny thing is, I generally don't get attached quickly at all. In fact, most of the times I don't get attached at all. This one hit me outta nowhere like a sack of bricks. Link to comment
Dubb Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 Well she sees you in a very good light. That's always a good thing. You may hear from this girl down the road. One piece of advice, if she does contact you in a few weeks and asks you to meet, don't play games. Go and meet her. For now, it's probably not in your best interest to be around her. Go meet some more ladies man. Btw, the fact that she said you didn't * * * * * her out like other guys makes me think she does this a lot. She could be a "new" freak and get high off of that. Link to comment
alexrox Posted March 5, 2009 Author Share Posted March 5, 2009 Well she sees you in a very good light. That's always a good thing. You may hear from this girl down the road. One piece of advice, if she does contact you in a few weeks and asks you to meet, don't play games. Go and meet her. For now, it's probably not in your best interest to be around her. Go meet some more ladies man. Btw, the fact that she said you didn't * * * * * her out like other guys makes me think she does this a lot. She could be a "new" freak and get high off of that. Yeah I didn't make it seem like I was pissed at all, I made it very casual and whatnot. But yeah I won't play games if she does contact me, but I'm sure a week or two without her would be good. I'm sure it won't be long till I get over her, I guess I'm just so down about it because it came out of nowhere. Plus, I guess I don't know if she lied to me by telling me that it was nothing specific that I did... Who knows. By the way, to everyone that posted here, I appreciate your advice. I'm gonna try to avoid thinking about her and once that's over, meet some new girls. Hopefully it won't take long. Link to comment
Dubb Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 It's thirsty Thursday man. Go out, I am! Link to comment
alexrox Posted March 6, 2009 Author Share Posted March 6, 2009 Let us know how it goes Well I went out last night and I managed to find myself a date for Saturday, which is awesome. Last night I felt better, and today I feel even a little better so I don't think it'll bother me at all beyond today. Thanks everyone! Link to comment
confused25 Posted March 6, 2009 Share Posted March 6, 2009 That really sucks! Something must have happened to make her not wanna see you anymore, maybe she just doesn't want to tell you. I remember I was kind of into this guy for like two or three weeks. We were texting each other the one day during work, and this like a couple of days before one of our our planned date. Out of nowhere he made a sexual comment over text and I was just TOTALLY turned off by that! I mean, come on, I've only known you for like a couple of weeks! After that, I cancelled the date and never called him again. If like you said you guys were hitting it off right from the start, I don't see how she can just lose interest in you for no reason. But then again, you've only known her for like two weeks, so she doesn't really owe you an explaination or anything. Link to comment
alexrox Posted March 6, 2009 Author Share Posted March 6, 2009 Hey, yeah I agree that since it was only a few weeks, I don't expect a full explanation, which I guess is why I didn't ask her for one when I replied to her email. As far as you saying that the guy you were seeing sent you a sexual text, I can say without a doubt that I didn't do anything of the sort. It was a little strange but hey, that's life. As I said above, I'm doing a little bit better as I've been going out a lot to keep my mind busy. I have a date with someone new this weekend so I'm hoping it goes well, I'll let you all know how it turns out when it's over. Link to comment
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