Hvae not been here for a long time, but need good advice now.

[meghanx11]

So i haven't been here in a while, mostly to try to get over my beak up on my own. Well i thought i did pretty good. I was fine, had those few bad days but for the most part thought i was over it. I had not talked to him in three months. During that time i got three restricted calls at an odd time in the morning, i didn't answer. He also had talked to my sister twice.

 

Now he is home for break from school and he came into my work while i was there. He saw me walked away then walked back and gave me a hug and just said hi. He is still with the girl he started dating about two weeks after we officially broke up. Since i've seen him i've been a mess all over again. Every night after i've seen him i've had dreams about him and haven't been able to sleep. I've been so emotional and just a mess.

 

I don't know if it's time to try to talk to him or just leave it alone. I don't know. I just need advice and someone to help me out.

[CallingAllAngels]

Well, do you want to get back together with him? It's gonna be kind of hard since he still has his girlfriend. What do you want to talk to him about?

[meghanx11]

yes, i do want to get back together. the only thing is we broke up almost a year ago. it took me so long the first time to get myself back. Then went nc for 3 months. The fact that there still together means they've been together for like 7 or 8 months. So im scared to talk to him.

 

1. because im afraid i wont get the response i want

2. because im afraid he really thinks he loves this girl and i just get my heartbroken again.

 

im not even sure what i want to talk to him about. i just miss being around him. and seeing him just made me realize that a lot more.

[CallingAllAngels]

yes, i do want to get back together. the only thing is we broke up almost a year ago. it took me so long the first time to get myself back. Then went nc for 3 months. The fact that there still together means they've been together for like 7 or 8 months. So im scared to talk to him.

 

1. because im afraid i wont get the response i want

2. because im afraid he really thinks he loves this girl and i just get my heartbroken again.

 

If he is still with his girlfriend, I wouldn't talk to him. You might not get the response you want and it will just set you back.

 

Go back to NC until you can get yourself together again.

 

Good luck.

[UCLAMike]

Megan I am where you are. Dated for a year, have been broken u for 7 months. I broke 2 months of NC and believe me I did not get the response I needed. You think that time will ease things, no. She is still for some reason mad at me and despises me. She is still with her new boyfriend.

 

Right now, you need to heal and completely get over him. Don't even think about getting back together it is simply not going to happen. Even if it does, it's going to be same drama all over again.

 

If he genuinely changes and realizes his mistakes, I don't think he'll come back to you saying "Wow you know I missed you lets get back together." I don't think it will be that shallow. Learn from this and heal. Get your emotions back and heart back. When you absolutely no longer even care to get back with him, that's when you can even entertain the thought of being friends. Right now, anything he says, not says, is only going to set you back.