Xplode Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 so myself and my ex, have been having our "space" as she wanted.. its been just over a week of NC, and i found the first few days really hard.. like near impossible. we have our 2 yr anniversary in just over a week. and we have been apart for about a month now. i still really want things to work with my ex, but since her 21st bday, (where i left for specific reasons).. we have never recovered, and has gone all i need "space" i need to be independent and work out what i want for myself. I cant handle being the ignored boyfriend. she doesn't call me, or message, me she only replied occasionally. and im just hanging on for something that might not eventuate? Now to the new girl.. i saw an old crush from when i was younger.. like 15 lol. at the local Sunday session. (Sunday drinks), we caught up got to talking, and my god she is stunning. shes really nice and we have been talking a fair bit.. (due to lack of conversations from my ex) she gave me her number, and has been initiating everything, shes away this w/e but said we should catch up next week... now i don't know if im moving to fast.. or if i should be single for a while and settle down to just being myself or what.. o if i should keep waiting for lochness monster ex.. ( who knows if it exists..) has anyone been or had a similar experience? i dont know what to do. Link to comment
dreamwarrior Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 Take your time and get to know her all over again...don't take things to seriously...just have fun and enjoy the here and now.....it's not necessary to move so fast into things...remember you just got out of a relationship. As I said many times before to others...if it's right it will happen...good things can never be rushed. Link to comment
waveseer Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 Is your current relationship officially over? Link to comment
Xplode Posted March 5, 2009 Author Share Posted March 5, 2009 umm well in my eyes its not over, because i still want her.. in her eyes, she isnt sure what she wants. and wants like a long while to think and sort herself out.. i cant support her.. she wants to be completely alone? leaving me...not much to go on? hence why im looking to the attention on others. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 umm well in my eyes its not over, because i still want her.. in her eyes, she isnt sure what she wants. and wants like a long while to think and sort herself out.. i cant support her.. she wants to be completely alone? leaving me...not much to go on? hence why im looking to the attention on others. Then you need to establish whether you're broken up, or "on a break." I would just come out and tell her this before meeting someone new. Are you sure you're ready to move on this fast? Link to comment
Xplode Posted March 5, 2009 Author Share Posted March 5, 2009 i feel like if i dont move on, ill sit with these feeling for a long time, i dont believe in a break unless its a mutual agreement. i dont agree to a break, i dont want a break. i just wanted to be with her.. i called her last night and said that i was looking at the thought of seeing someone else. and i didnt want her to hear it from someone else. or for it to be a complete surprise etc... and im really sorry but your emotionally unavailable, and i like having someone to talk to and spend time with. hence the confusion of whether to wait, take my time, hold off on a new girl completely.?? The other thing is i dont deal with not having regular sex ether, the ex suggested something casual but i dont think thats wise.. ill keep wanting her back more? Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 I can certainly understand what you're going through. Maybe it would be best to not persue either one until you can decide which direction to take? Also, I agree that having something casual with the "ex" will only set you back, and end up hurting more. Take care... Link to comment
The_411 Posted March 5, 2009 Share Posted March 5, 2009 There is no such thing as a "break". Why people believe this B.S. is beyond me when someone says they need a break it means they are too cowardly to say it's over. It's akin to pleading nolo contendere instead of guilty. Bottomline you shouldn't be chasing this other girl and lead her on. IF she's only interested in NSA sex then you may be ok but if she's angling for a relationship of the long term variety you need to be honest withher and tell her you just got out of a relationship. Link to comment
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