amyb Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 A few months ago I broke up with someone, we broke up because of distance (i live in canada, he lives in europe), we were together for a few months but had also dated several years ago and had remained friends (again because of distance). Anyway I saw him the night beofre I left and we said our good byes I was really upset and wanted to cry but held back. I didnt want him to see me crying, I dont know why, maybe I just didnt want to let him know how hurt I really was. This is a guy I was/am really in love with and am having a really hard time getting over. I have always been a private person and dont really let my feelings show, but this is someone I really cared about and sometimes I think that by not showing him more emotion that maybe he doesnt realize how much I loved him. Any thoughts? Link to comment
girl68 Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 I think it's admirable... because once the decision is made, there's no going back. So letting him see you cry would have done nothing but made it harder for him to break up with you and or leave you there balling your eyes out. And you should know sometimes you can see all the hurt in the world through eyes that are not crying. Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 I think that by not showing him more emotion that maybe he doesnt realize how much I loved him. What would you have if he had seen you cry that you don't have now? Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 It doesn't really make a difference if he knows, now does it? And, btw, crying isn't a good indication of how much someone loves you. I know a lot of people who cry over the smallest things. And some, who never cry. Link to comment
amyb Posted March 4, 2009 Author Share Posted March 4, 2009 Thank for the feedback. I just feel bad because I feel like I didnt really let him know how I felt and that by leaving without any showing any emotion means that I didnt really care. I just wonder sometimes that maybe things would have turned out differently, like maybe we could have worked things out so I could stay there and be with him (he sort of asked me to). We are still friends and we do keep in touch and sometimes I get the feeling that he doesnt realize how much I cared for him. Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Did he initiate the break up? Link to comment
ellandroader Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 I understand what you mean. If you do want to express your feelings and add closure, then send him a letter or maybe talk to him when you feel you are ready. There is nothing wrong with being private in that sense, but if he is a good guy and you feel strongly about it, he deserves to know. It sounds like he is. Link to comment
amyb Posted March 4, 2009 Author Share Posted March 4, 2009 Did he initiate the break up? Not exactly. It was time for me to come back to Canada and it was just understood by both of us that it was over. Link to comment
90_hour_sleep Posted March 6, 2009 Share Posted March 6, 2009 What would you have if he had seen you cry that you don't have now? yep. you're human. nothing wrong with a bit of human emotion. some people just can't cry...i think it only makes helaing more difficult if you can't release the pressure. Link to comment
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