rockthered Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 My ex and I broke up last fall so it's been like 6 months. It has been amicable for the most part. Once in a blue moon we'll exchange a short email on how we are doing but lately, I feel like she's taunting me. The last couple of emails, she has always made sure to include a random guy's name and how they are going to do a casual event (studying, going to library, etc). All of this is going on withone telling me who this guy is (friend, cousin, etc) or the nature of their outing. Feels like she's baiting me into asking more about this guy which I usually dont do -- just reply with "that sounds fun" or "good luck". Even thought I have moved on and dated others, I have tried to be respectful and not rub it in her face with details of my dates, weekend plans, or mysterious name dropping. Why can't she act respectful and adult-like in return? Link to comment
mechie22 Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 She wants to know you still want her or care. shes telling you to get a reaction out of you. Link to comment
DN Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Best thing to do is to stop exchanging e-mails with her. Link to comment
helpme11111 Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Why can't she act respectful and adult-like in return? what is your age range? My last breakup with my ex, resulted in her rubbing my face in things that she is doing and or someone she is talking to etc. I think it is kind of a way for them to get back at you, or for them to kinda see what you will do or act when they mention someone taking the position of being their S.O. that you once had. Honestly, I feel like someone who has matured in this area of things wouldnt do this to someone they "truly" cared anything about. Link to comment
BeStrongBeHappy Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Either that or she's just seeing you as a friend so it's not a question of 'respect', she's just filling you in on her life. If it still hurts you, that's a sign that perhaps you can't be friends and you just stop responding/contacting her. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Best thing to do is to stop exchanging e-mails with her. I agree. If she is baiting you then that is immature and why bother with someone who is not respectful. Link to comment
lilsmc Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 she is definitely trying to rub it in your face that she has moved on! maybe she is just doing that so you can go running back to her because you cant bear the thought of her being with other guys. It sounds as if you are past that and would only like to keep a friendship, but she obviously doesnt. So either you talk dont talk to her, or just keep showing no interest by saying "thats great, hope things work out" maybe she will get the hint and stop taunting you Link to comment
thorpe Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 If her mentioning a guy makes you uncomfortable you shouldn't be emailing. I email my ex college girlfriend, but after 25 years there's nothing we can't say to each other. Link to comment
philove Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 My ex did the same the last I spoke to her. I think she is just trying to get a reaction out of you and to see whether you still have feelings for her. You can either play it cool like you currently are or you can play her at her own game (say you have girlfriend etc) Link to comment
girl68 Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 The last couple of emails, she has always made sure to include a random guy's name and how they are going to do a casual event (studying, going to library, etc). All of this is going on withone telling me who this guy is (friend, cousin, etc) or the nature of their outing. Feels like she's baiting me into asking more about this guy which I usually dont do -- just reply with "that sounds fun" or "good luck". Even thought I have moved on and dated others, I have tried to be respectful and not rub it in her face with details of my dates, weekend plans, or mysterious name dropping. Why can't she act respectful and adult-like in return? Yes, she wants you to ask questions. Yes, she wants you to know she's moved on. Yes, she wants you to care and be slightly possesive over her. Yes, you're doing a great job not taking the bait by responding with "that sounds fun" and "goodluck" No, you should not mention the dates you're going on. If it does make you THAT uncomfortable, stop emailing her. If you can deal with it like and adult as you have been so far, continue emailing her as is. But know that she won't stop mentioning these things. But DON'T bring it up as that's just as bad as taking the bait and possibly worse. Link to comment
rockthered Posted March 4, 2009 Author Share Posted March 4, 2009 I fell for the trapt and wrote her an email about a gal I have been dating. Gave her details of our dates and what I liked about new gal -- all true and in a just-the-facts manner. I know I have stoop down to her level but part of me is glad to inflick the pain on her as I suspectsshe still care about me to feel the pain of a new gal. Now she knows how it feels to be kicked...... Link to comment
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