creation Posted March 3, 2009 Share Posted March 3, 2009 Boyfriend broke up with me yesterday. I don't know whether to start no contact with him, however he wants to stay in contact and be friends/meet up etc. I don't know if this will work though, seeing as the break up is still recent and my feelings for him are obviously still there! Even after one day I'm finding it hard not to miss him and I really don't know what to do. I do want to stay in contact, but I know my feelings will most probably get in the way. Anyway wanted to get that out there and see what anyone else thinks! Link to comment
NJRon Posted March 3, 2009 Share Posted March 3, 2009 Sorry for your pain. If he broke up, then my suggestion is to go no contact until you are feeling up to being in contact again. If you want some space to heal, then he should respect this. Link to comment
creation Posted March 3, 2009 Author Share Posted March 3, 2009 Thanks, I would like some space to get myself together but I don't like the thought of not being able to at least speak to him or see him. It feels like I'm not strong enough to stop contact even for a while. Link to comment
NJRon Posted March 3, 2009 Share Posted March 3, 2009 If you *can't* stop contact, then that should be a little warning bell going off in your head that you are still to attached to have contact. People are usually a lot stronger than they give themselves credit for. Link to comment
yellow_sweater Posted March 3, 2009 Share Posted March 3, 2009 I'm sorry to hear of your break-up. I think your answer is right in your original post. Right now, you need to do what is right for YOU. If being in contact with him is only going to cause you more hurt and confusion, then you should simply let him know that you're not ready to be friends, nor to be in regular contact. If that upsets him, too bad: he should know that he can't have his cake (break up with you) and eat it too (still have you in his life). Take good care of yourself. You need to be a priority right now, not him. YS Link to comment
WindowTo Posted March 3, 2009 Share Posted March 3, 2009 Why aren't you strong enough? You make the decisions for yourself. Just do it. You will find that NC will be the common advice given on ENA, because its a tried and true method to healage without losing your self respect etc. Link to comment
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