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Appropiate etiquette for being stood up on Valentines Day


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More details would help....Did you have a set plan? Were the plans confirmed? Is this someone you just met or barely know? Is it possible that there could be some misunderstanding?

 

You say you have the feeling you're being stood up -- was he supposed to show up some time ago and didn't, or do you just have the feeling he won't?

 

It would be hard to answer your original question without knowing some of these things...

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I just have this feeling. I saw him this morning and then he said he had to sleep for a few hours. He did say he was going to take me to dinner but wanted me to watch porn with him this morning. I was very uncomfortable with this, told him this and now feel like he is just going to blow me off. I haven't known him long. I sent him an email asking him what time he is coming over and no response. It's still fairly early here, but I just have this feeling.

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I just have this feeling. I saw him this morning and then he said he had to sleep for a few hours. He did say he was going to take me to dinner but wanted me to watch porn with him this morning. I was very uncomfortable with this, told him this and now feel like he is just going to blow me off. I haven't known him long. I sent him an email asking him what time he is coming over and no response. It's still fairly early here, but I just have this feeling.

 

He wanted to watch porn with you and you guys just started hanging out?

 

Wow, I'd ditch this guy.

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I just have this feeling. I saw him this morning and then he said he had to sleep for a few hours. He did say he was going to take me to dinner but wanted me to watch porn with him this morning. I was very uncomfortable with this, told him this and now feel like he is just going to blow me off. I haven't known him long. I sent him an email asking him what time he is coming over and no response. It's still fairly early here, but I just have this feeling.

 

You haven't known this guy that long and he thinks a nice way to spend Valentine's morning is to watch porn with you. Was dinner supposed to be your payment for watching porn (and probably testing out some of the moves) with him? If he stands you up then take it as no great loss...it doesn't sound like he has much class.

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I just have this feeling. I saw him this morning and then he said he had to sleep for a few hours. He did say he was going to take me to dinner but wanted me to watch porn with him this morning. I was very uncomfortable with this, told him this and now feel like he is just going to blow me off. I haven't known him long. I sent him an email asking him what time he is coming over and no response. It's still fairly early here, but I just have this feeling.

 

Are you two exclusively dating? Are you sleeping together? How does he treat you when you two are together?

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Are you two exclusively dating? Are you sleeping together? How does he treat you when you two are together?

 

No, I wouldn't say that at this point. We've had our issues. It's 3 here and if someone is taking someone out to dinner, it's about time to call I'd say. I don't think I am being unreasonable. Does anyone else agree? BTW, the porn thing is absolutely disgusting and I don't know that I even want to see him.

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He wanted to watch porn with you and you guys just started hanging out?

 

Wow, I'd ditch this guy.

 

wow - yeah, this guy is seriously romanctic. i can understand if you are a long term couple, but sheesh 'planning' a porn viewing session!!!! i'd forget him, if he doesn't show up tonight. i just wouldn't even bother.

 

PS - i'm not anti-porn, i just am not impressed with his date planning.

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To be honest it doesn't sound like either of you have much invested in each other, why not call some of your single girlfriends and make plans?

 

I don't have but one single GF here and she has plans for the night. I am handling this well, all things considered. Thanks for all of your posts. My biggest challenge tonight will not be to send any stupid emails.

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I’ve never had a boyfriend ask me to watch porn with him…If anything I offered my ex to watch porn with me once…Then again, I’m bi so it didn’t bother me at all to watch girl on girl… There are just some things I think guys should leave up to the girl to decide.

 

A “romantic” date shouldn’t begin with porn. He may have just been taking a chance and wanted to share something he felt was an intimate (I can’t help but laugh) part of his routine. But its also childish and immature, not classy by any means.

 

He might be trying to hint that he would like to have sex with you, and felt like you rejected him. But any excuse I can even contemplate doesn’t give a satisfactory reason to why he would think you’d be interested in that so soon (Or at all).

This leads me to believe he doesn’t have that much respect for you. Example being the porn suggestion at the beginning of the day, and practically blowing you off the rest…

 

I would suggest (as you’ve already been suggested) to just hang out with someone else. Or just enjoy the day as any other. Today’s my birthday, and it doesn’t even feel like it is.

 

Instead I’m just chilling at home surfing the internet. –No complaints either. It’s a nice cozy day.

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why don't you go and rent some fun movies, and then go and grab your favorite meal, and paint your nails? just have a fun night, you don't need this guy.

 

I've totally done this on V days in the past when I've been single and it's been really fun. Don't forget a nice hot bubble bath with your favorite celebrity gossip magazines too.

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