HerDestiny Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 I was wondering what everyone's dealbreakers are. I don't mean what you think should be a dealbreaker but things you have actually had to break it off with someone over in the past. Infidelity (he cheated, three days later I was gone and never looked back.) Lying (if I couldn't trust him, our relationship was just a source of unnecessary stress I didn't need in my life and there are people out there who are trustworthy...glad I moved on.) Drugs I'm glad these were dealbreakers for me because I moved on to a much healthier, more balanced relationship with a stable, bright future. What are/were yours?
Adge Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Somebody that is really dull or smells or is really bad in bed!
thistime Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 indifference the opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. Drugs: when I found out he was dealing...i ended it. I have a child, and ALOT to lose. Abuse Losers no job, and no intention to find one. No drive, or work ethic. has to go...cant date Players one of these too. I was pretty much a booty call...while we were going out, I had made plans with friends to go to a concert months before he and I started seeing each other. I chose to still go with them, and asked him if he wanted to join us and he said no. THEN he shows up at the concert with another girl...holding her hand as he approached me to say HI. He had been with me (sexually) the night before, and he had the balls to do that!!! I was livid, and then I realized he wasnt worth it. i called him the very next morning and told him I couldnt, and wouldnt see him anymore. disrespects my family
Scorpion Fury Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 This was a long time ago. We weren't official yet, but I was on like the 5th date with this guy. This old guy in the lobby of the restaurant dropped his wallet and didn't notice. I picked it up and handed it to him, and after we got to our table, the guy kept saying there was probably money in there and he can't believe I didn't keep the wallet. I told him knowing he would steal from an old man made me sick. He tried to say he was just kidding. He totally wasn't. I couldn't respect him after that. It was a wrap.
russ978 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 In order from biggest to smallest -cheater -extremely overweight -not affectionate -has kids -doesn't have a job -doesn't have a college education
Ac143 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 - abusive (emotionally & physcially) - drugs - alcohol - player - no job - no ambition, goals etc - disrespectful to others including his own family! - not a very good father - indifferent to our relationship The list can go on and on but those have been the worse.
ghost69 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 -drugs -no job -no school -no car -kids -married or in relationship -one arm or leg
Seymore Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Abuse Infidelity Dishonesty Drugs Disrespectul/resentful of me or my family Expecting me to support her financially Taking advantage of me Needing me around 24/7 for no particular reason Man, I need to come back to this when I start dating again and remind myself to stick to these.
flash83 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 im not going to throw around the obvious ones above ... but intelligence is extremely important to me. if she isn't above average i wouldn't consider it.
ghost69 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 girls with extensive 'lips' turn me off big time.
Blanco Nino Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Cheaters, murderers, Red Sox fans, Meth users, thieves, any type of strange smell.
Ac143 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Cheaters, murderers, Red Sox fans, Meth users, thieves, any type of strange smell. This was a low blow - Im a red sox fan! Dont hate lol
ladybug726 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 - Obvious (cheating, lying, abuse, addictions, illegal activities) - Stuck-up - Doesn't stand up for me - Needy/obsessive - Skinny (I don't mean to offend anyone. This is a very personal one. Lots of girls LOVE skinny guys but I just can't get past it.) - No car, no job - Asks for a threesome (tends to = loser IME) - Too small... - Bad hygiene - Drives a Honda or a Ford. Instant >>FAIL - Dates/fondles/kisses men - Doesn't like animals - Misogynist - Doesn't cook (and expects me to) - Has a weird name (like bob or something) - Walks too fast while I'm wearing heels. (I'm wearing them to look good for you, fruitcake! Slow down!) - Religious - Wears tight pants, pink, baseball hats off to the side, has facial fur that looks "too done", earrings, shaves his chest fur, man-purses. - Bleaches his hair - Wears my underwear - Any kind of weird fetish. Like feet, braces, whathaveyou - Always has to be doing something every minute, always has to be around other people. - Says things like, "Git 'er done", or "Where's my meal, wumman!" - Is obsessed with WoW - Has a criminal record - Has children (pets are the exception, so there can be loopholes.) - Is divorced, in a relationship, sort of in a relationship, or recently out of a relationship. - Musician or an athlete. *I guess I kind of went nuts with it. I haven't broken up with a person for all of these, but I really won't date someone if they do these things. Some are more important than others (like, if he buys a Honda when we've been together for 2 years... then I just let it slide. But if he drives a Honda when we meet, well...)
JeckyllNHyde Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Haven;t ended it alot Lol. But the times I did: -No car (Yea! I'm not materialistic but it got to be a pain back then always driving us around. Err.. Ironicly now my bf doesn't have one but I'm willing to accept.) -Drugs (other then recreational marijuana) -Gossiping about what we do behind closed doors to friends (sex related stuff mostly. I like gentlemen who've been taught better by their momma's not to have sex and tell -Clingyness or moving too fast too soon. -Has no intentions of getting serious with me. -Is dating other people behind my back/cheating -Shows no interest in contacting me. -Doesn't stand up for me. Ladybug good list LMAO. Btw what's wrong with Honda?
ladybug726 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Btw what's wrong with Honda? Not much actually. That's one of my less logical deal-breakers, but it exists on my list none the less. Especially if it's a Civic. I am sorry to any Honda Civic drivers out there. I'm sure you're perfectly nice people, but you're just non-dateable. (
girl68 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 I am sorry to any Honda Civic drivers out there. I'm sure you're perfectly nice people, but you're just non-dateable. ( But why, must you have a man with a nicer car/ truck what's the deal with the discrimination? Manwhores are write offs. Womanizers say buhbye!
ladybug726 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 But why, must you have a man with a nicer car/ truck what's the deal with the discrimination? Manwhores are write offs. Womanizers say buhbye! I totally agree with the latter. He doesn't have to have a nicer car. He could drive a run-down Toyota and he would win points with me. But like I said... as people, they are probably very nice. Just not right for me.
girl68 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 He doesn't have to have a nicer car. He could drive a run-down Toyota and he would win points with me. But like I said... as people, they are probably very nice. Just not right for me. But you're not answering my specific question which is why honda?
ladybug726 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 But you're not answering my specific question which is why honda? I had a string of losers that drove Hondas, so I stopped dating guys that drive Hondas. I know, I know. I'm mostly being tongue-in-cheek. Sort of.
Rose21 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 I have alot, most are a given!: -Infedelity - Abuse - Liar -Someone who uses you -Someone who is totaly obsessed with sex -Someone who drinks frequently -Uses drugs of anykind unless they are perscribed to them -Smokes. -Someone I can't connect with in bed. -Someone who doesn't appreciate me and compliment me, make me feel wanted. -Someone who doesn't want to spend time with me or takes me for granted. Doesn't want to introduce me to his friends, and acts differently with me around them. -Someone who doesnt respect my morals and wishes. -Someone who doesnt knows boundries, and doesn't hang out with the OS one on one or give his number out. -Someone who isnt affectionate and romantic and cant make me feel loved. -Someone who isnt intelligent and doesnt knows what they want to do in life. -Someone who isn't responsible with money, and is reckless. -Someone who has no sense of humor, and can't make me laugh. That's about the jist of it!
laisla Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 there are some obvious ones, of course. my other ones are... -doesn't eat his vegetables (i.e. he is allowed to indulge sometimes but he has to eat well, too) -isn't into learning about the world (learning could be through anything from the national geographic channel, to reading, watching the news, etc.) i value this so i want somebody who also shares it -does not help the world or doesn't give to others (charity, non-profit, etc.) -isn't serious about marriage and a family with me. i feel very strongly about the above
Rose21 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 I don't care about the man not wanting a family with me, because I myself don't want kids. But he has to want commitment, and marriage and be able to devote himself fully to me in a partnership. Also knowledge is a big thing for me. I like hearing things I don't know about. I don't want to be a bum.
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