elizmdavis Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 So I started my gym routine back up last night! Thank goodness...I really missed it. I had been sick the passed couple of weeks and going through this break-up on top of that. My gym routine is Mon-Thur from 5-630...always (unless I feel lazy). So I went and worked out like usual and a friend of mine said "Hey your ex is here!" She said he walked right passed where I was and she noticed that I didn't see him. I was on the stairclimber and totally in a zone so of course I wouldn't have noticed. Two things strike me funny about this situation: A.) He has rarely been coming to the gym at all and when he does it's usually in the morning. He works until 5 on the weekdays...plus he prefers raquetball or football for excersise. Plus he knows my workout schedule because I am pretty consistent with it. B.) If he does go to the gym, he always warms up on the bike. The bikes are right where the stairclimbers are. So....I think he avoided the area. So I finished my workout on an eliptical and I noticed him about 100ft in front of me working his arms. He was pretty far away but was in direct sight. I just tried to not look...but that's not easy. Im certain he knew I was there. Although things are civil between us, I didn't feel OK to go say "hi". I thought it would be awkward. It's sad though because He is someone that I have known for over 5 years and now I shouldn't even say "hi"? I just felt it would be better to not do so....but I'm conflicted because I miss him tremendously. What do you all think about this encounter? OK to not say "hi"? Maybe he planned to come because he knew I'd be there?
waveseer Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 I believe it's always important to be civil (partially from making some pretty severe mistakes in my past). I wouldn't go out of my way to speak to him, but if our paths crossed I wouldn't treat him poorly either. Both of you still exist, and both of you are human beings.
JohnGalt Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 don't read to much into his motivations for coming to the gym. Next time, say hello. No harm in saying hi if you see him and make eye contact.
elizmdavis Posted February 10, 2009 Author Posted February 10, 2009 The breakup is only 2 weeks in...we were talking everyday for 5 years until now. It's just different and sad.
Sweet Venus Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Hmmmm......I wouldn't go out of my way to talk to him, but if you happen to cross paths, definetely say hi. It would be awkward and rude not to. Not sure if he came there specifically because you were there...only he really knows that. Maybe it was just a coincidence. I would try not to read too much into it. Two weeks into a breakup things are probably still pretty raw. Maybe you should change your workout schedule temporarily until it gets easier. Just a thought.
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