tom1607307597 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Alright, there's this girl that I've known for about 1-2 years that I've been having second thoughts about now. We aren't really close friends, more like acquaintances. My gut tells me I shouldn't be because: 1. I was looking for signals awhile back but there was none that I saw, 2. it's already been a year+ so waiting till now would be ackward, 3. she never seemed especially interested in me from what I can tell. What brought this up was the fact that she is leaving in march to go to japan, as well as some peer pressure about "when I was going to ask out so-and-so". Putting aside the peer pressure stuff would there be any harm in going and just asking her if she wanted to get coffee or go out sometime? I keep rationalizing that it's a bad idea but also wondering "why not".
Clementine orange Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 I'd go with "why not". You don't want to live the rest of your life wondering what if.
Slagar Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Go for it! Regarding 2: There is no harm in asking someone out that you've known for a while. Sometimes an event (such as her going away), can really spur you to think about the person, and make you realise you'd like to know more about them. Regarding 1 and 3: She may not have been thinking of you in that way. She may not have even realised you were interested! Sometimes when you spend time alone with someone, your perception of them can change very quickly! Forget the peers and just go for it. If you don't try, you will never know what might have been! Don't waste the chance
ghost69 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 just ask. what you got to lose? you are just acquaintances anyways right? next time, don't befriend a girl you have other intentions with.
Scorpion Fury Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 How long is she going to be in Japan?
tom1607307597 Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 she said she'd be gone from march to around summer time, so it would sometime next fall before i run into her again. thanks for the responses guys, lol now the nervousness sets in. hmm... how should i ask her.
tom1607307597 Posted February 12, 2009 Author Posted February 12, 2009 yeah, i'm probably overthinking this. i'm feeling hesitant about trying this out because her facebook profile says 'in a relationship', which usually is another way to say "i'm not interesting in dating right now". there's still no harm in asking i guess
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