2 noob questions

[brendan714]

Hi there:

I just have 2 quick questions that I hope someone can help me with:

 

1. lets say that my gf and I are hanging out in her bed. I, being a guy, get a little aroused and have some precum on and around my boxers and legs. If she gets naked and presses up against me is there any chance that this fluid can cause pregnancy (I am not penetrating or anything like that its just on my legs a little bit) ? Would it be a good idea to wear a condom on the safe side or is that going a little overboard?

 

2. lets say now that my gf and I are having intercourse and I am wearing a condom. Once I reach orgasm and ejaculate should I pull out afterwards (my penis will probably shrink) ? Also, since it might be kind of embarrasing to get shrink-dink after orgasm is there any way to prevent this/make it less awkward? What should I do if it does happen? should I wait until I get hard again and put on another condom?

 

I know there's more than 2 questions there but any help with anything would be really great. Thanks!

[Seymore]

From what I've learned in sex ed, you can cause pregnancy via pre-cum. I would definitely wear a condom, and definitely pull out afterwards. As for "shrink-dink" after an orgasm, I don't know how it's embarrassing. It happens. I mean, you're done. With my ex, sometimes I'd get soft after, sometimes I was ready to go again. No shame in going soft after you've finished, IMO.

[Clementine orange]

1.) Is this a clothes still on situation? If so then I wouldn't worry about it, but if you two are rolling around naked and grinding etc then it would be a concern

 

2.) Yes, when you are done (ejaculated) pull out (while holding condom) before you get soft in case of leakage. I wouldn't worry about shrink * * * * - thats too funny. Besides you sound young, your refractory period is probably like 2 seconds anyway (lucky bastard)

[brendan714]

haha thanks for the replies that helps

[paperneck]

the odds of getting her pregnant from precum without actually going inside of her are ridiculously small. Wearing a condom while fooling around with a monogamous partner is overkill in my opinion.

 

if you're going to stay with this girl for a while you should probably get used to her seeing your penis without an erection. its really a silly thing to worry about.

[i_win]

1) yeah she can get pregnant. If she couldn't, we would have condoms made of cloth instead of rubber. I would definitely avoid having her rubbing her genitals against you with or without boxers. Despite the relatively small odds, there are still millions of sperm just in your precum alone that could theoretically get her pregnant. That said, I wouldn't wear a condom if there is just some grinding...just leave your jeans on or put a condom on and feel free to do whatever you two want.

 

2) Yes, you should pull out fairly soon after you ejaculate. Your penis will stay hard for at least a little while after. And don't worry about your penis going back down to size. It's normal and not a big deal...at all.

[Pip-Boy 3000]

If its on your pants or underwear and not penetrating, the chances of her getting pregnant is like .000000000000000001. I swear the things they teach people nowadays scares the hell out of people. It scared me too but eventually I realized it's not as big as they say.

 

But even with a condom, pull out. You never know when a condom can break.

 

And for the softy, what I usually do is take off the condom and have the person give me a bj right after cumming. It feels so awesome when its soft and it might even get hard again. If she doesnt like cum then just wipe it off a little bit.