shiminimo Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 yep, i been seeing this girl for abour 6 months. she found out i'm going to inherit a bunch of money. she doesn't help pay for anything . she uses my car all the time. burns up all the gas in it and brings the car back on empty. i pay 300 dollars a month for the car and she doesn't even offer to help.she lives with me and doesn't pay any rent or help buy any groceries. when she does have money she spends it all partying. i like her alot but i don't know how to get her to do her share.
shikashika Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 uhh... why do you like her then? Is she really hot or something and that makes up for it? when did you move in together? 6 months is pretty quick IMO
Stereohead Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 In my opinion. Break up with her. She’s just riding you for the cash and easy life. –It also will get her to second think just using you. But she just sounds like she’s using you cause you haven’t put your foot down. Don’t allow her to use your car. Unless she’s going to pay for the gas she uses. Kick her out if she refuses to help with bills-considering she’s living with you. But the only way I see you opening her eyes. Is breaking up with her and take away all the luxuries your providing her with.
Clementine orange Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Ahhh, the freeloading relationship. Strategy: don't put gas in the car, don't buy groceries. Or even better, "lend" the car to a family member and see how that goes. If (or should I say, when) she complains, then, hey, it's your car, you can do what you like with it right? In a nutshell, you need to reassert your boundries.
metrogirl Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 All of these things that you complain about are a direct result of you letting her get away with it. Usually a person can tell early on in the relationship what kind of partner they are shacking up with. If she has never offered to pay for anything and never has money for anything else other than to party, you should have cut ties early on in the game. She knows what she is doing. She's a gold digger. I bet she gives you great sex though, doesn't she? Of course she does, because that is how you keep a man coming back with more money and more gifts...
BeStrongBeHappy Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Be careful. If she's acting like this, she could get knocked up so she could hit you with 18 years of child support. I'd start new with someone else. And don't talk about inheritences with anyone. Inheritences can also evaporate as things change, so don't count those chickens before they hatch, nor let your girlfriend count them either.
george237 Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 I can't believe you are still with her. Give her the boot.
DN Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 I agree that you are letting her get away with these things. But why would you want to be with someone who would do these things in the first place?
BellaDonna Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 yep, i been seeing this girl for abour 6 months. she found out i'm going to inherit a bunch of money. she doesn't help pay for anything . she uses my car all the time. burns up all the gas in it and brings the car back on empty. i pay 300 dollars a month for the car and she doesn't even offer to help.she lives with me and doesn't pay any rent or help buy any groceries. when she does have money she spends it all partying. i like her alot but i don't know how to get her to do her share. How did it get to this point? Did she ever pay rent? When did she move in?
Scorpion Fury Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 She's using you. Dump her and find someone who can pull their own weight.
IMAbadman Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 I think the first step is you talk to her and tell her how you feel. Set the ground rules. Then, if she doesn't like the ground rules... you need to decide to either accept her as she is or put foot to azz and launch her to the curb.
HeartGoesOn Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 What kind of an agreement did you have regarding "who pays for what", before she moved in with you? Also, I would think that you're just getting comfortable after knowing each other for 6 mos, What was the rush of moving in together after such a short time?
PixelPusher Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Yep, can't change someone like this. Time to boot her to the curb or have her start paying 50/50. How did you let yourself get in this situation in the first place?
savignon Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 She has definitely learned what she can get away with in this relationship. If she has qualities that you admire/respect/appreciate/love, then talk to her about it...try to set up some rules and see if she can adhere to them. The fact that you're "going to get an inheritance" (one day) doesn't mean you can afford to pay all this *now*...give it to her straight and see what she says.
_Asti_ Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 The finger is being pointed at you because you're allowing this to happen. You're acknolewdging it, put a stop to it. Simple as that.
valiantv Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Have you talked to her about it? Be assertive if you do
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