How do I act..

[Lou1607307979]

I really need some advice and help as i am in a very bad place at the moment.

Me and my ex split up just over a month ago. We split up as we were both very stressed and it was causing arguments. He is a rugby player and had injured his knee and needed intense surgery, he doesnt know if he can make a come back from this and doesnt know if his career is over at the end of the season. I had just moved away from home to Uni for the first time. But hadn't met any friends, didnt enjoy my course and now i am currently looking for a full time job which i can climb the career ladder instead of studying for a degree. As is stands at the minute, I keep getting rejected for lack of experience. Also a loved one is very ill and will die any time soon. so i have lost of confidence and security in myself.

 

We needed to break up, we were constantly arguing and i think there was too much pressure.

 

Since we broke up we have been meeting up, not just us but in a group of friends or because our families are close and been having really chilled out fun and enjoying each others company. He told me a couple of days ago he saw his future with me and wanted us to take it very slow and try to work at it. I love him and want a future with him too. The thing is, It is all by his shots. If he wants to call he calls, but if i want to call him he doesn't answer. And its the same with meeting up. I feel like hes keeping me stringing me along. I feel that constant sick feeling because im so unsure of us and myself.

 

Has anyone else felt like this or had a similar experience?

 

I feel like i need to make him miss him, so he knows what we have can be fixed, but because of everything else i do rely on him as he isnt just my love hes the best friend i have.

xx

[huskiesfan]

Hey Lou

 

 

 

The question you should be asking yourself now is "Do I want to be in a relationship where he controls everything?" Because right now, he's, as you've put it, "calling the shots" as to what happens in the relationship. To me, that may be the early signs that he could become extremely controlling. Its easy to see that you love him and care about him, but you have to think about long term prospects too. Its clear your not happy about being in a relationship solely on his terms right now. Just think about in a few months, could it be worse? Yes, maybe he does need to miss you for a bit, so my advice is to go NC for a little bit because maybe that will make him realize what he's pushing away, and because it sounds like this relationship isn't working at this point, but not enough where it can't be fixed.

 

-Better Every Day.