Have you ever...

[My3sStillRacing]

In inspiration of Scarlett Johansson's character's storyline in He's Just Not That Into You (fantastic btw)...

1) Have you ever fallen for someone who was involved?

2) What did you do about it?

3) What was the outcome?

[bostonbruins24]

I assume you have fallen for someone involved?Make your intentions known,then be prepared to back off.Don't actively try to break up the other couple,but realize you expressing your interest could very well be a catalyst that does in fact break up that couple.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

I assume you have fallen for someone involved?Make your intentions known,then be prepared to back off.Don't actively try to break up the other couple,but realize you expressing your interest could very well be a catalyst that does in fact break up that couple.

 

So if you had a partner you wouldn't mind if others who were interested approached you partner to declare their interest even though they knew your partner was attached?

[civilservant]

I didn't do anything

They split up 4 months later of their own accord

We ended up together (for a while, anywy)

[thejigsup]

I would look somewhere else. Taken is taken, period.

[epsilon2x]

I would look somewhere else. Taken is taken, period.

 

Only when there is a ring.

[ghost69]

Only when there is a ring.

 

if a girl tells you she is taken, drop it there.

[epsilon2x]

if a girl tells you she is taken, drop it there.

 

Duhh..

 

If she doesn't mention having a boyfriend she's fair game.

[ghost69]

Duhh..

 

If she doesn't mention having a boyfriend she's fair game.

 

i was saying a ring doesn't matter. if you find out later she is in fact married, then yeah, bail out. so many girls wear rings now and like to flash it like they are married. a lot aren't.

[lost1607307474]

1) Have you ever fallen for someone who was involved?

Yes.

 

2) What did you do about it? / 3) What was the outcome?

I came out and told him I had feelings for him. He then actually told me he had feelings for me. We didn't do anything about it for about 8 months because we knew it was wrong and he was involved. Eventually, he broke up with his girlfriend and we hooked up. But it didn't work out. He still had pictures of her in his room, she still called him and visited him every single day, and it was just awful. I'm glad I left that situation.

[DaBladeRoden]

It's kind of the situation I'm in now.

 

SHe was sending out signals that she was single and perhaps interested what with her hanging out in singles groups and doing little flirty things like talking about how she's a bad girl and all and how shall wanted me to go to this comedy club thing, and seemed so disappointed when I possibly couldn't.

 

So it was quite a shocker when I found out she had a boyfriend. (first from her friend and later her)

 

But then she said she still wanted to be friends and hang out and do stuff together. Even saying that her bf doesn't mind when she hangs out with guys he knows like her, citing that he is still friends with his ex after all.

 

I was very conflicted. Pert of me still wanted to hang out with her, and part of me knew I would want to still try to put the moves on her. But if I did that and failed, well then I failed. And if I did that and succeeded, well that would mean she's a cheater, and I can't date cheaters. Then there was the idea of trying to get her bf back with his ex, but then I realized I do not have the powers of manipulation possessed by your average soap opera character.

 

So now I'm just testing my own patience, I haven't tried talking to her in 4 days now.