Should I still go for it?

[philly4808]

So I go to college with this one girl and have had a crush on her since last semester. We turned out to be real good friends so I haven't ever asked her out in fear of ruining a great friendship, but I still have feelings for her. She was talking to another friend of mine and he told me that she seemed kind of disappointed that I never asked her out and that I wouldn't make a move to save my life. When he asked if that door was now closed, she said she didn't say that. What would be the best way to approach this. Should I just ask her to dinner and see what happens? I really don't want to make things awkward between us at school if she says no. I'm not afraid of the rejection, but am afraid of changing our relationship for the worse.

[lost1607307474]

Since you've got a friendship happening with her, I would tell her how you really feel about her. You can do this by asking her out on a date (and make sure it sounds like a date and not a friendship thing), or simply by just telling her what you think of her! If she doesn't reciprocate the feelings, things may feel a little awkward, but you can certainly make sure that the friendship doesn't falter. You'll be fine!

[philly4808]

So some time has passed since I originally posted this, but last night I asked her out to dinner for this weekend. She said maybe, and had a slightly sketchy excuse to go with the maybe. We always get along great, but today at class she barely said anything to me and definitely avoided too much eye contact. I know maybe really means "no, your my friend, I don't want to hurt your feelings." That's fine...I'll have to deal with it. Now I feel though I have made our friendship awkward and it won't be the same. Any advice on what to do from here? Should I try talking to her or just wait till she starts talking to me again? Makes me wish I never asked her in the first place.

[yankeefan74]

If you never asked her in the first place, you'd walk around silent forever with the crush having to see her dating other people.

 

You'd be far more miserable. If the friendship fades, then it fades. You asked her out to dinner. You made a move. Congratulate yourself, and move on. Ask other people. You may find that she'll eventually ask YOU out.