xxrave Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 Okay. So I have been dating this guy for about three months. We were pretty close, or so I thought. Occasionally, we'd get into little fights and it really bothered him that I acted like I got/should get everything I want. It's pretty hard because I am a pretty spoiled only child. One day short of our three month anniversary, he breaks up with me in the harshest way; over a text message. He said a bunch of things, calling me a spoiled nasty brat and the rest was completely vile. Since then, I can't stop thinking about him. I want him back badly and I have no idea a.) if he'll even take me back b.) how to go about getting him back. I don't know if I'll ever be able to really talk to him, even though I'm around his house and his friends all the time. (My friend lives a few houses down from him.) I need some advice. I'm really not ready to let him go. At least, not like this.
High5girl Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 If you agree to being a spoiled child or brat....what can you do to change that? That would be the first thing I would do to change things. Not just in relationships, but with life in general. I have a co worker who is spoiled, gets everything she wants...so when things don't go her way...she acts like a brat. Which only makes her look even more whacko. If he is willing to come back...I would most certainly change what drove him away to begin with. If he doesn't want to get back together, then perhaps take this as a lesson learned and make some changes to help future relationships. For the time being, I would let him cool down and be on his own for a short time. He may reconsider.
xxrave Posted February 8, 2009 Author Posted February 8, 2009 It's not like I throw fits when I don't get what I want. The kind of thing he's talking about is that I always talk about what people just do for me and what people just give me.
MyheartorHis Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 I agree with high5girl, you need to FIRST change what brought this. If you realize how you are and WANT to change, then that could possibly help your chances of getting him back. I have had spoiled friends, I'm talking VERY spoiled - like a brand new Lexus first car before they were even able to drive. Over time I, along with a lot of friends, over time grew to find them annoying, a big brat, etc. I am a very accepting person, but over time it gets annoying. You could possibly help out friendships this way. Also, the main thing you need to do is give him space no matter how hard that is. If you push him in many different ways to talk to you, to take you back, etc. it will just push him away farther. He needs to have time to think, time to himself, and most of all there HAS to be time for him to possibly miss you. Work on changing things you know you need to change for possible relationships, friends, and most of all YOU. THEN try talking to him, but the more you sound desperate to get him back... it might come off in a completely different way to him. Just remember that. When I look back on past break ups, I realize now I made a complete fool of myself. Calling them crying, begging them for another chance, trying to get to him through his friends... all the while I completely ruined whatever chance I did have to get him back. Don't do that same mistake, it's a huge one that you will eventually look back and regret. I miss one of my exes even to this day, and I know if I wouldn't have pushed him after the break up the way I did... I could possibly be with him now. That fact along, breaks my heart. Take it from someone whose made this mistake one too man times, it's not worth begging, crying, and pushing them to take you back.
Sweet Venus Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 Ok...so then WHY do you do that??? For attention?? Maybe he feels like since you brag about what EVERYONE else does for you, there's no need for him?? I have to say his sort of behavior is NOT becoming at all. It is a MAJOR turn off. Unless you are willing to work hard on yor behavior and be LESS self centered, I don't see what benefit there would be for him to even come back.
Sweet Venus Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 And read the last two sentences of this post.... You need to learn..not EVERYTHING is about YOU and sometimes you can't get what YOU want.
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