jen83 Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 So yesterday night, I log on after work and the guy I've been going out on dates with starts messaging me. We're talking about how lame we are--he's sitting at home with his roommates watching trashy tv and I'm not really doing much. So he just randomly out of nowhere asks me to come over to his house and hang out with them! I was surprised--I've never been to his house or met his roommates and it's like 9:30pm at night. So I sort of reluctantly laugh it off. He still jokes about how it'd be fun, but ok. Soon after, his roommate ends up taking the guy's laptop away and starts talking to me--asking me to come over and hang out. So it takes some proding, but eventually I say ok. But I mention having to take out my dog and he's like "you should bring him and let him play with our dogs!". So I do. So I get there at almost 11pm. This turns into the 5th time I've seen him. We watch tv, talk, play on his computer. The dogs get along fine(with the exception of their very large 60lb male dog thinking my 10lb male dog is a lady*cough*).. His roommate hangs out with us for a little while and then goes upstairs. So we have a great time. I ended up being there until 5am! After about 3am though I was ridiculously tired and ended up laying my head on him--which he didn't seem to mind and he eventually lays his head on my mine and we're watching tv shows on his computer--pretty cuddled up with his hand on my arm. He's picking on me, teasing me a little, playing with my hands and we're laughing about how we're covered in dog hair(the 60lb dog ends up laying in my lap practically, another 60lb dog in the floor and my 10 lb dog perched asleep on the sofa above our head--- and he starts picking the hair off his shirt and putting it on me(playfully) while I'm very tiredly protesting(again, playfully). I keep asking him if he's tired(because he acts wide awake and he assures me he's not tired). Then I leave at 5am and he texts me to make sure I got home safely. And still, after all that, practically falling asleep on his sofa all cuddled up with him(it would only have been too easy to fall asleep right there--lol), still no kiss(5 dates and we've never kissed or held hands--even though all of these dates have been 3-6 hour long occasions each--with a decent amount of alone time). I was fine with it though, I was half-asleep with I left. He's never once been anything but a complete and total gentleman around me. But I still feel like he likes me--do you agree? I mean why would he keep asking me out and spending all this time with me otherwise--unless he's lonely?
waltwhit Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 well, only having the information given, I would say he is definitely into you. He was definitely flirting with you, and the fact that he wants to be close to you and wants you around etc. is obvious proof that he likes you. I am sure he is either just shy about the first kiss - I mean maybe he's a real romantic and wants the first kiss to be special. Perhaps he's shy AND a romantic, so maybe he missed the first "perfect" moment because he was a little shy and maybe it seemed to early to him, and now a perfect romantic moment has not come along, and he doesn't want to just kiss you for the sake of kissing you. In fact, I think I would say he is REALLY into you, which is why he is waiting to choose the perfect moment so carefully. If he just wanted to hook up with you or have sex with you, he definitely would have kissed you by now, whether it was the perfect moment or not. Yep, he definitely is really into you. I think maybe you should make the first move on this one, if in fact you are not too uncomfortable to do it. Either that or set up the next time you hang out to include a really romantic moment. Now I know romantic moments are just that, romantic, and shouldn't be set up....but you can at least put all the pieces in place, and who knows a nice little moment might just pop up! I would suggest going somewhere that you know will be a beautiful starry night, and tell him you are really into the stars, but you don't know anything about them. Start asking him if he knows what this constellation is and that constellation. Even if you know a lot about the stars, just play dumb. Chances are, he will make some stuff up even if he doesn't know, and at some point there should be a perfect moment for a kiss. I don't know I am kind of picturing you kissing him out of the blue while he is pointing to one particular constellation you asked about. you know, just surprise him completely and see what happens. But I definitely think he likes you...a lot! So go for it! Have fun, and I look forward to hearing what happens
amipushy Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 It sounds to me like the start of something beautiful. Maybe try a little lingering eye contact when you are snuggled up might help this along but don't risk making the first move -just go with the flow and let him take the lead, I don't think you will regret it if you do. Good Luck to you and hope you both fall helplessly in love.
Kiteless Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 Nothing wrong with this! He is probably just shy. He is definitely into you.
VerdeShimmer Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 It sounds to me like the start of something beautiful. Maybe try a little lingering eye contact when you are snuggled up might help this along but don't risk making the first move -just go with the flow and let him take the lead, I don't think you will regret it if you do. Good Luck to you and hope you both fall helplessly in love. Cute. I am going to co-sign this. But if you feel like he is too shy then you go for it, I doubt he would mind.
riley123 Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 In fact, I think I would say he is REALLY into you, which is why he is waiting to choose the perfect moment so carefully. If he just wanted to hook up with you or have sex with you, he definitely would have kissed you by now, whether it was the perfect moment or not. Yep, he definitely is really into you. I agree. All signs point to his interest level being very high, but he's afraid to pull the trigger. Maybe you could take more of the assertive role? Sometimes shy guys need a little assistance. Good luck!
shikashika Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 5th date and no kiss? If there's no kiss by the second date I assume no interest. And, if the guy doesn't have the balls to pucker up by then, then I don't want someone like that. Just my opinion though, if you are prepared to wait that long, then go for it... for me.. no way!
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