So i ran into the ex 3 months later...

[Himynamesbob]

This is what i get for helping my uncle out.. We were going to help his buddy(her uncle) move some furniture. He assured me she wouldnt be there... We arrived at his house and sure enough there she was...

 

God i hate myself. It's been 3 * * * * ing months since I've even seen her face i was actually starting to forget what it looked like. I was actually starting to heal. Now i feel like I've been set back 2 months.

 

She didn't even acknowledge my presense... i tried to talk to her but all she would give me was a "hi.. doin good.."

 

And she says she wants to be friends... some friend.

 

I've never been in this situation before so i had no idea what to do... Should i have just ignored her? Or tried to be friendly? WHAT?

 

So after about 5 minutes and i couldn't take it anymore... I couldn't stand her not even caring that i was there.. not even caring that it had been 3 months since we last saw eachother... texting away probably to her new guy she's in love with. I told my uncle "good plan" and he offered to drive me back home... sounded like a good idea at the time.

 

Now i feel like * * * * . I'm such a coward. I actually thought i could handle being friends with her. Actually thought maybe she still cared. Silly me. Silly pathetic me.

[justally]

I'm so sorry. I felt pathetic when my ex gave me up for his new girlfriend, too. I wish I could say something to make you feel better...but the only thing I have to offer is at least your nose isn't being ground in your break-up continuously.

If it hurts, stay away. That isn't cowardly, it's common sense for anyone who isn't a masochist. I mean, if you are, feel free to do c*ap that's going to cause you pain, otherwise, I think you made the right choice.

Maybe she does still care, you don't know that she doesn't. But she did break up with you. Meaning, she's trying to keep a distance.

I think...to be friends with an ex would require that the relationship no longer was a thing either of the two wanted to revisit. It would have to stay in the past, and undiscussed. And unwanted. Because the moment that one starts dwelling on what had been...nostalgia would/could set in, and one-sided feelings generally cause resentment, and that would ruin the friendship.

[ScubaDiva]

She sounds horribly immature - sounds like you're best off out of that situation. You may feel like rubbish now, have a good cry and think about things, feel your feelings and then let them go - I bet after today's treatment you will move forward ten fold and eventually one day will find someone more suitable to your good nature and with similar values. Hope you don't feel sad for too long - look to the future... Keep positive!

[searching1951]

I think you performed admirably. Whoever said it is right, she is an immature, narcississtic

pos. You're only set back a week. And you're actually much stronger as a result of this.

[Himynamesbob]

I really hope you guys are right

[Himynamesbob]

You know what... i've actually thought about her a little bit less today. Dont get me wrong, i still miss her and want her back.. all that jazz. But something feels different. Maybe seeing her in person - seeing that that old her has been replaced with someone completely different - finally made it sink it. Hopefully it gets better from here on out

[UCLAMike]

there was nothing you did wrong here.

 

there is nothing else you could have done.

 

you were in the right.

 

you are not set back 2 months. u just got some flash back of the pain.

 

you are a good man for having genuinely cared for a girl

 

she doesn't give a F. You do. don't feel bad about it you were the one who was genuine.

 

I like your attitude. Keep up the NC. Just be polite to everyone including your ex but keep your boundaries. r u listening? set boundaries and keep them. you are good to go man. u will heal.