The man of my life...

[delicous]

Why do I obsess so much about what hes thinking? Im always

wondering what hes thinking and whether he is contiplating when

hes going to leave me or picking thing out in his head of what

Im bad at or what he doesn't like about me. I feel like hes making

a list in his head about whats he likes and doesn't like. I also

start wondering if hes comparing me to other past girlfriends

or random girls at the store...

 

I know for a fact that Im obsessing and being a little "crazy."

I just have never loved someone as much as I love him and

really do not want to lose him.... And I feel like Im not as hot

as his past girlfriends, Ive never seen any pictures of them but

thats how I feel like hes not as attractive as I use to be...

 

We talked the other day and he thinks Im being possessive, he

literally told me that...Its because I freaked out when he suggested

him and I start hanging out with friends in a group, I didn't mean to

freak out over somethinglike that but all i could think about

is his old bestfriend who is a girl hanging out with us and I hate the

fact that he has a really pretty girl bestfriend. I know shes married and

has a husband, but scared something is going to happen between the

two when they re-unite!

 

It makes me sick worrying like this..I love him and really don't want to

lose him...Im ranting, I think I need advise...

[waveseer]

That which you fear you call near.

 

In other words, unless you let go of the fear of losing him you are virtually guaranteeing that you will lose him.

 

Your life can be complete with or without him, believe it.

[Casey13]

I know this may be hard to swallow and probably not what you want to hear but what youre doing right now is in fact making yourself appear less attractive by acting so clingy and insecure. They did studies on this and it was presented in a cool show I watched a few years ago where they took young women (actors) and told them to interview random men but making sure their body language, tone of voice and everything else screams insecure and then they took the same women and made them up to be less attractive by adding a bit of make up wrinkles, bigher nose, little fat here and there but told them to do the same and scream with confidence and guess what? The confident group, although less pretty physically, won with flying colors. Men are attracted to confidence and the way you carry yourself and behave towards him will make you either than much better looking or worse in his opinion. So you have to find a way to fix this for yourself. Dont panic, relax, feel good about yourself and you will be more successfull with him. Trust me on this the more you push the more he will try to pull away.

[D_Lish]

I absolutely see no point in worrying over, things that we cannot control.

If they are going to cheat, they will cheat.....worrying won't prevent it happening.

He may never cheat....thereforee you are worrying for nothing.

 

If everyone had to worry, over every single thing.....we'd all be ill with worry.

 

Rather than look to the negative, look to the positive and tell yourself, 'I have a great guy who is with me, who chooses to be with me and he because he loves me'....

 

And BELIEVE it......

 

Im gonna confess. In my past relationships I have behaved the same way. Have been very possessive, needy, worried over little thing.....and all those relationships died a death and didn't last and I'd wonder why?

 

And then I wisened up.

[renaissancewoman101]

That which you fear you call near.

 

In other words, unless you let go of the fear of losing him you are virtually guaranteeing that you will lose him.

 

Your life can be complete with or without him, believe it.

 

This is very true.

 

Sometimes one makes your worst fears come true. It's hard to overcome fears though.

[eYah]

As painful as it might first be. I am learning you must talk about it. Tell him how you are feeling, after all this man is suppose to be the closest person in the world to you. You have to be ready to become one as corny as it sounds

[delicous]

I try not to try because Im sure hed be able to tell the

difference and wonder what Im on..Im not always

Happy around him, I try to be though..I feel like this

is tough times because of the lack of money and Im

insecure about how I look sometimes and theres really nothing to do because everything requires having money...

 

I read the book "The Secret", it was working and then

it stopped working, im not sure why..

 

He has a lot of stress,which causes me stress as well because its hard...

 

he has told me whats wrong, but its out of my hands ..

he doesn't have custody of his daughter or even

visiting rights, can't afford to pay the court to

serve his ex girlfriend who will not allow him to see her

unless he gives her a bunch of money that we don't have

and he would love to give it to her if he had it.

He thinks that once he has custody of her that I will

get jelous which isn't true and I dont know why he thinks

this way...He also needs to get her to take a paternity test to prove that its his daughter..that requires money as well....

 

he owes the army 7000 dollars because he joined along time ago and then

quit.....he doesn't make enough to pay for that,plus hes got

credit card debt as well and owes another bank money for

overages fees..

 

He told me he envies me because I have good credit and is

proud of me that I do but it makes him feel like crap helping

me pay the bills when he can't pay his own like I can pay my credit card but he pays for groceries which keeps him from paying his credit cards...

I tell him I will just use my credit cards to pay

for groceries but he doesn't want me to end up

screwing up my credit...

This conversation happens a lot with everything I mentioned every month or every other month...

[delicous]

A little more complicated then everybody thought huh?