What if she comes back...do i take her?

[gunpoint6]

I was recently the victim of a rebound. It was a 7 month relationship and I was basically the crutch because she went back to her abusive, cheating ex-bf. This was the longest they were ever broken up. She spoke of us being a couple in the future and I loved being with her just to have her suddenly go back to him and lose all feelings for me. She said she now only cared for me in a friend sort of way. That hurt so much. My friends tell me that if this guy screws up and he most likely ill judging from their track record she will come back to me.

 

does this sound likely?

 

If she does and I am not over her an still want to be with her what do i do?

[riley123]

Don't think about the what ifs right now.

 

Think about this:

1. You were there for her when you were together and most likely treated her better then the guy she left you for.

2. Despite that, she made the decision to leave.

3. She's with him again and that makes her unavailable.

 

So, don't think about her returning -- she left -- it's time for you to move on.

 

Don't talk to her and keep yourself busy and you will heal. And if/when the day comes that she does come back, then you will be able to make a objective decision with a healed heart.

 

Good luck.

[turkieblue]

you'll get hurt again. That's almost guaranteed. It might be a few weeks or a few months. But it sounds like she just wants to use you as a crutch.

 

Be her flirty friend, maybe even "with benefits", but look after yourself first. She's abusing you if she comes back.

[HeartGoesOn]

I'm sure she'll evenually try to come bouncing back to you.

 

You're holding all the cards here, and have to decide if you're content with being "second best."

 

I think you deserve better...

[gunpoint6]

I'm sure she'll evenually try to come bouncing back to you.

 

You're holding all the cards here, and have to decide if you're content with being "second best."

 

I think you deserve better...

 

is it second best or just that she doesnt know how to love someone else and give them a chance...I feel like she went back to him because it was a 6 year relationship and there is that feeling of comfortable but thats something she would need to work out before moving on

[cemlaw]

figuring out her motives won't really help you. She still picked this guy over you in the end.

stay away from her when she needs her next ego boost- and she will.

[ld25]

If she comes back to you and you supposedly take her back, what is the guarantee that she wont leave you again in 2-3 years time for her ex again??

 

Are you willing to take that risk of taking her back knowing the uncertainty and emtions involved ?

[DaveTrump]

So she chose you over her abusive, cheating ex?

 

Do you really want her back if she makes that kind of decision?

 

I think you deserve a good strong woman.