i feel trapped.

[anacoolface]

My ex wants nothing to do with me. He calls me and tells me he hates me and we were best friends. I don’t get it. He also left everyone of our friends that we knew and won’t talk to them either. The issue is that its a small town and we still have friends in common and want to go to the same places but he thinks that is a bad idea. He is keeping me from half of the things I can do, and places I can go.

 

Im also scared because I don’t want to see him with new people and him ignore me. Im so confused and I just don’t want to think about it anymore.

 

should i just go to things and be sad all night, or see him get mad at me and talk to all his new friends about how awful i am

[1MoreChance]

why is he angry at you?

 

he actually CALLS you to tell you he hates you? did you do anything to attract this (did you cheat, etc.)? Not saying you deserve it tho

 

I'd just tell him very clearly that it is not appreciated and go on with my life and stand tall. Don't avoid places he is at if you really have business to be there, and hold your head high. your indference will stop him.

[lostandhurt]

You are allowing his words and actions to control your life. he is your ex and has no control over you or your friends. You need to take control back of your life and quit talking to him completely. His hateful words are his problem not yours. It shows just how messed up his reasoning is right now.

I know it will not be easy seeing him around but it will happen. Start off slow by going out with friends to a place you know he won't be at and have a relaxed good time. He has no right to tell you anything so you need to remind yourself of that.

 

Make this easy on yourself. If he calls simply don't answer. He has nothing good to say anyways and you two are finished so there is nothing at all to discuss. It will take a little time for you to regain your life but you can do it.

 

lost

[columbine]

100% agree with lostandhurt.

 

He has no bearing on the decisions you make now. Don't answer the phone to him when he calls, and if you're out and he happens to be there too, just avoid one on one confrontation altogether, but don't feel you have to hide away.

He's not part of your life any more, don't let him think he can be involved by controlling you, and bullying you out of your own life.

[anacoolface]

I have to say im at fault too I call him and ask if hes ready to be friends and he says yes then bails all the time and from time to time tells me he hates me.

 

I have stopped doing this now, and I think I am going to go out with out thinking if he will be there. I just don’t know if I can handle seeing him out and about with his new friends that he exchanged everyone and me I know for. I feel like a pice of trash that’s not good enough for him anymore. and i dont want to feel like that.

[columbine]

Good for you, dropping the phone calls. It's a good move.

 

Your self esteem needs a big boost now. I say this to everyone but you need to spend a little time working on yourself, doing things that make you feel good. Hang out with your mates; he chose to dump them, too. If you see him, try to ignore him. He sounds like he's trying to strip away from the things he associates with you but it's fairly destructive.

 

Don't analyze yourself in terms of how good you are for him. Think about how you can be the person you want yourself to be. Happy and healthy is what you need.

 

I know i don't know you but biiiig hug. My best friend is currently going through a very similar thing, and we've all had crap break ups. It will get better.

 

xx