Is he still into me?

[clyn]

Well, for those of you who saw my earlier post about Ron and Chris, Ron broke up with me a few weeks ago because he said he just didn't see a future with us.

 

I thought Chris was going to be somewhere, and I would have gone to it anyway, but I saw him last night at an open mic thing. We talked for a while, He talked for most of it. Then he said something about I was looking at him condescendingly, and I told him I wasn't, and I wanted to show I supported him so I gave him a hug. It was super nice. It lasted for about a minute. When we pulled away we sat there. His head was still close to mine, and I just sighed and my forehead touched his because I was still feeling chemistry. He told me something about I was looking for an excuse to hug him.

 

Then open mic ended, and we both left separately. I hugged him goodbye, and it lasted a while again. Then I kissed him on the cheek, and he kissed me on the neck. I couldn't tell if he wanted to kiss me on the lips, but he looked a little sad when we said goodbye. I don't know what it was. He seemed to not want to try the dating thing again when we last talked on the internet which was about a week ago. I don't get why he would have kissed me on the neck instead of the cheek. He knows how into him I am. He'd had a few drinks, but he didn't seem drunk to me. I don't get it. Did he just make a mistake and wanted to reciprocate in some way and wasn't paying attention to where he was kissing or something? Or do you think he wanted to flirt with me?

[alli]

Haha, I remember your post; that you liked Chris more than Ron but felt weird dumping Ron when he seemed like he was looking for more stability.

 

It sounds like Chris likes you but, like most people, isn't going to profess his love the first time you are together & both single (if he is still single as well). Don't overthink it. Ask him to hang out sometime, like this weekend.

[clyn]

Well, Ron and I are still best friends, and he said he cares a whole lot about me but just doesn't ever see us falling in love.

 

Poor Chris. He doesn't realize if we rushed into things and got married that his financial problems would probably disappear. My dad might offer to help him pay for school. He was talking to me about his parents last night and how they paid for his brother to go to college. They went bankrupt and told Chris he was on his own. His car got wrecked, and his mom took his new car away. They know without transporation he can't get a job or go back to school. It's sad. Turns out Chris might even be smarter than Ron which is very very insane considering Ron got a National Science Fellowship and got a perfect score on his math GRE. Chris was going on for a few hours about physics and evolution. There seems to be a big intelligence gap there. It's fine as a friend, but I think he'll become uncomfortable if he decides to be with me. Seems like all the ones who are very smat but not genius are taken or aren't my type, the retards are available, and the geniuses are too smart for me. He claims to have an IQ of a 162. It's going to be hard to find someone in his range. Mine is somewhere around 130.

 

Chris and I have been talking on the internet before last night. He said he loved all my quirks and we said each other was a dream. Then he told me we were too different and not having sex before marriage was a dealbreaker for him. Then I flirted with him, and he asked why I did it. That was the last I heard from him before I ever so accidentally ran into him yesterday.

 

I am not asking him if he wants to hang out this soon. I think it will scare him off. I dunno if he thinks I meant to run into him or not. I kinda knew he was going to be there (but I probably would have gone if he hadn't been there). >_

 

I took this to another forum, and they seem to think he made a mistake and just returned the kiss to be polite.

[alli]

That's strange, kissing someone's neck seems more intimate then kissing someone's cheek, at least to me.

 

I hope things work out for both of you. And Chris CAN go on with his life without a car. There is student financial aid, FAFSA, scholarships. He could live and work on a campus. If he is as smart as you say, he will figure it out.

 

That's too bad you think he will be too skittish if you tried to hang out with him now. I guess you'll have to wait & see how it goes.

[clyn]

Yeah. He should get some kind of financial aid, but scholarships are tough to come by these days. I don't think he wants to live at home anymore. He said he'd cut off his arm if he lived in his parents house at his brother's age: 26. I told him he might say that but he doesn't mean it. He argued with me. I don't know if he'll be able to pay for rent too if he were to get his own place. Loans don't cover everything. I got lucky compared to him. I'm actually sort of worried about him because he usually signs on to facebook every afteroon. He hasn't since before I last saw him.

 

Yeah, kissing on the neck is more intimate to me too. I don't get why he did it. He knows I have intense feelings for him. He knows not to lead me on or I'll get obsessed. Maybe he just wanted to stay away from the lips, and the neck is farther away than the cheeks? I dunno. I also don't get why he had a sad look in his eyes when we said goodbye. I told him to call me sometime and to call me if he wanted to hang out. He said he would. I looked into his eyes, and they seemed to tell me he was just saying that. I called him out on it, and he told me he would call me. I'm not going to call him for a while, but I did tell him at 3 in the morning that it was absolutely wonderful to see him again. I don't know how much energy I should put into thoughts about him. I am talking to someone on the phone I've never met, and we have a good conection. I have to be done flirting before I get with him, he said. I'm afraid things will go like they did last year with Chris. It's been almost a whole year since we've last seen each other. My feelings aren't as strong for him now that I've seen him, and we seemed to only have a friendship connection until we hugged.

[epsilon2x]

I didn't read all of your post. I just want you to think of something.

 

If a girl told me "I don't see a future between us"

 

A. I think she's telling the truth.

B. She's just trying to be nice about the break up.

C. I really don't care I just want sex.

 

Either way, no matter what the answer is. Why bother with a guy that says he doesn't see a future with you? Everybody deserves someone who wants to be with them.

[clyn]

Epsilon, you're getting the guys confused.