Rose21 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I'm not sure if it's just me, or if it's that everyone has different views and staminas when it comes to sex, no matter how much they enjoy it. My boyfriend is only the 2nd guy I have slept with, and the one I plan on marrying eventually. I personally think I may be a sexaholic. Lol I LOVE sex. Even from an early age, oh lets say 9, I was obsessed. I'd always think about it, dream about it, draw pictures etc, even though I didn't loose my virginity til I was 18 and don't believe in sex outside of relationships. With my boyfriend, I can never get enough of it. Expec since we are in a semi-ldr. I would be content having it every day. When we see eachother everyday, during a week it's around 3-4 times a week. But I'm always horny 24/7, have sex on the brain, think about it, dream about it, and always try to get my boyfriend riled up. I'm the first girl he has ever gone past kissing with. And although he really enjoys having sex with me, he says that sex isn't a big deal to me, he's not addicted. When he's here, he has no problem getting worked up and jumping all over me. But if there is a long period of time that we are apart, sex is always on my brain and I am suffering majorly, where as he isn't really. Is that weird that I have a MUCH higher sex drive then my boyfriend? I thought it should be the other way around.
Cognitive_Canine Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 It might just be the distance. My boyfriend and I are in the same situation. We see each other about once every three months (although, he's coming down here for a full week to stay with me during his spring break). Since we've had sex, both of our sex drives shot up through the roof. Here's a guy who has never masturbated before having to multiple times a day. And, I often day dream during class (particularily history?). It'll probably even out when you guys are not in an LDR. Also, you may have to accept that he just has a lower drive. It's not a big deal. It is hard being rejected by your partner for sex the first time or feeling that they are just doing things to make you happy. But, compromise must be made. If you truly are a sexoholic, then you can be given prescription medicine by your doctor to lower your sex drive. I've heard of it done before. Hormonal therapy.
jettison Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 You're really not that abnormal. Lots of people, both men and women, are probably thinking about sex a lot more then they should. It's ok. As long as the rest of your life doesn't suffer for it then you're in the clear. Of course, if you are truly suffering then you should see out a therapist. Something is only wrong if it's either A) Hurting someone else, or B) Hurting you in some legitimate, qualitative way.
Ac143 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I would LOVE to have a high sex drive like this!! You control it right? You dont cheat? why is this a problem? lol
jettison Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Exactly. Just thank your lucky stars that you still feel that way. Throw yourself in an LTR where you're living with the person, and you may come to realize that the opposite may be true. If anything, these are the "golden years" for you. Don't stress so much about them. Enjoy them. The opposite is that you're getting absolutely no sex, and/or, you're unable to have sex at all. Your threads are kind of like a fabulously wealthy person who is also complaining that he has way too much money, and it's weighing him down, and he just can't deal with all this damn money. I know you encounter a lot of unsympathetic people on ENA, but can you see why? You're like a Wall Street banker asking a destitute person if he can borrow a quarter. Huh? Similarly, here are my problems: I am tooooo good looking, and it's a burden. I'm too smart, and I get soooo tired of being the smartest person in the room all the time. My job rules... maybe too much. I wish they'd cut my salary and make it less fun. I have too many friends, and I can't keep track of them anymore because there are so many. I just won the lottery.... AGAIN!!! Oh the agony!!!! Too much money in taxes! :sad:
Rose21 Posted February 5, 2009 Author Posted February 5, 2009 Well, we see eachother every 2 weeks. Sometimes more. And when he's here for a weekend Fri-Sun, we do it every one of those days. but even before he left I'd want it everyday. He's never rejected me for sex, unless he is sick or not feeling well, but when I try to spice up phone conversations it seems one sided. He would rather wait til he comes so he could SHOW me vs. tell. I do both.
Rose21 Posted February 5, 2009 Author Posted February 5, 2009 And the day dreaming in class etc, this was somethng I ALWAYS did. Even before I had sex.
Cognitive_Canine Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Well, we see eachother every 2 weeks. Sometimes more. And when he's here for a weekend Fri-Sun, we do it every one of those days. but even before he left I'd want it everyday. He's never rejected me for sex, unless he is sick or not feeling well, but when I try to spice up phone conversations it seems one sided. He would rather wait til he comes so he could SHOW me vs. tell. I do both. My boyfriend isn't much into dirty talk. He doesn't like getting riled up while I'm not there. Try living together for 2 months. After a while, it goes down. Every two weeks isn't that often.
Cognitive_Canine Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 And the day dreaming in class etc, this was somethng I ALWAYS did. Even before I had sex. I started after spring break of last year. After I gave him a blowjob for the first time. Granted, I gave him like 12 that week.
Rose21 Posted February 5, 2009 Author Posted February 5, 2009 Well yes, I can control it. I would never go out and cheat or anything else. And to help matters me and my boyfriend dont hang out with the opposite sex one on one. With my ex, he was the first person I had sex with. And although it was killing me inside and pandora's box was opened, I was cellibite for around 7 months. No sex. I don't believe in sex outside of a relationship. Then I met my boyfriend, and because I didn't want to jump into the sex and make sure he was in love with me for me, even though he was a virgin, we waited about 2.5 months to have sex. And now I'm more addicted then I've ever been! My ex had slept with 30 plus girls and I thought it was "good." And then with my boyfriend, who had never gone past kissing, he is a MILLION times better and always leaves me hungry for more. The other guy didn't do that for me. But then, I didn't have the immense love for him as I do my boyfriend. There has to be love with sex, otherwise no deal.
Perfect Dark Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 It is very normal, I used to do it every day twice a day with my ex.
Cognitive_Canine Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 It is very normal, I used to do it every day twice a day with my ex. Great start and end to the day. This would be me, ideally.
Ac143 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I would be daydreaming about it & thinking about it alllll the time if I only got it every 2 weeks. That would drive me nuts - this why I cant do a LDR.
Perfect Dark Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Great start and end to the day. This would be me, ideally. Yes it was fantastic! Going from that to nothing sucks! Hence why people have one night stands! Rose you are not abnormal, you just have a high healthy sex drive.
Cognitive_Canine Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I would be daydreaming about it & thinking about it alllll the time if I only got it every 2 weeks. That would drive me nuts - this why I cant do a LDR. I would be sucking on pens in class, and then realize what I was doing and being scared to death hoping that no one noticed.....
Perfect Dark Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I would be sucking on pens in class, and then realize what I was doing and being scared to death hoping that no one noticed..... Haha that's funny! I just keep having sex dreams lately.
Cognitive_Canine Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Yes it was fantastic! Going from that to nothing sucks! Hence why people have one night stands! Rose you are not abnormal, you just have a high healthy sex drive. Yes, definitely. Before I had sex with my boyfriend, I never understood one night stands. If we ever for some reason broke up, I see the occasional need. It's such a dramatic change in drive after sex.
Ac143 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I would be sucking on pens in class, and then realize what I was doing and being scared to death hoping that no one noticed..... Yeah no one noticed, no such thing haha
Perfect Dark Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Yes, definitely. Before I had sex with my boyfriend, I never understood one night stands. If we ever for some reason broke up, I see the occasional need. It's such a dramatic change in drive after sex. Yeah! I'm not being bitter but hardly any relationship lasts forever these days.
cyberdog Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Then I met my boyfriend, and because I didn't want to jump into the sex and make sure he was in love with me for me, even though he was a virgin, we waited about 2.5 months to have sex. Can you really know if you are 'in love' wit h someone after 2.5 months? Or even 3 or 4 months? I mean I consider there to be a difference if you love someone and being 'in' love with them, which can take a much longer period of time to uncover IMO. And now I'm more addicted then I've ever been! My ex had slept with 30 plus girls and I thought it was "good." And then with my boyfriend, who had never gone past kissing, he is a MILLION times better and always leaves me hungry for more. 30+ girls, sheesh that is a lot, especially if he was still young. Since you are 19 I'm assuming he wasn't out of his 20s and I just think 30+ girls is a lot even for someone in their 30s.
SapphireNoir10 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Not paranoid! Im in the same boat as you pretty much Rose, except the LDR, as long as you have a healthy sex life thats the most important thing.
midnightrambler Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Can you really know if you are 'in love' wit h someone after 2.5 months? Or even 3 or 4 months? I mean I consider there to be a difference if you love someone and being 'in' love with them, which can take a much longer period of time to uncover IMO. 30+ girls, sheesh that is a lot, especially if he was still young. Since you are 19 I'm assuming he wasn't out of his 20s and I just think 30+ girls is a lot even for someone in their 30s. some guys just get it done
SapphireNoir10 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I think everyone takes different amounts of time to fall in love, you cant judge, people just fall in love in their own time. Anyhoo lets not turn this into something off topic.
Cognitive_Canine Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I think everyone takes different amounts of time to fall in love, you cant judge, people just fall in love in their own time. Anyhoo lets not turn this into something off topic. I agree. Some people fall in love quickly and others take long amounts of time. What may seem soon for some people may seem like the right time for others.
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