Just stumbled across a great first date opening question

[ConfusedDater]

i would make her laugh instead.

 

my plan is to say it in a fun and humorous way. Not sitting directly accross from her with a suit on and a notepad saying-"so tell me something about you?

[Ac143]

my plan is to say it in a fun and humorous way. Not sitting directly accross from her with a suit on and a notepad saying-"so tell me something about you?

 

Make sure to take notes & have more then 1 question to ask! Oh and iron your suit lol

[jettison]

Make sure to take notes & have more then 1 question to ask! Oh and iron your suit lol

 

I agree. If you're going to interview her then go all out. Have a notepad, stare at her like you don't really believe what she's telling you, interrupt the interview with several phone calls, and tell her at the end, "Ok, I have several other applicants, but I like what I've heard here so far. I'll have my people contact you, and perhaps we'll have a followup."

[ghost69]

my plan is to say it in a fun and humorous way. Not sitting directly accross from her with a suit on and a notepad saying-"so tell me something about you?

 

you cannot say that line in a humorous way.

[StrawberryYogurt]

Don't you agree you have to "sell" yourself to the other person though?

 

No, she has to sell herself to me I am what I am and if they don't like me, so be it, probably wouldn't have worked in the long run anyway.

[ghost69]

That's good. Play the clown.

 

girls don't forget guys that make them laugh a lot. girls will forget a guy that uses lines from tv shows and wrote them down.

[ConfusedDater]

you cannot say that line in a humorous way.

 

I can, I have that ability

[Mutley]

No, she has to sell herself to me

 

That's a good point.

[ghost69]

I can, I have that ability

 

good luck.

[Ac143]

I love clowns

[Scorpion Fury]

girls don't forget guys that make them laugh a lot. girls will forget a guy that uses lines from tv shows and wrote them down.

 

I will not have a bf that I don't think is funny. I have to be with someone that makes me laugh

[Ariel85]

I agree. If you're going to interview her then go all out. Have a notepad, stare at her like you don't really believe what she's telling you, interrupt the interview with several phone calls, and tell her at the end, "Ok, I have several other applicants, but I like what I've heard here so far. I'll have my people contact you, and perhaps we'll have a followup."

 

 

LMAO. VERY clever, Jettison!

[ghost69]

I will not have a bf that I don't think is funny. I have to be with someone that makes me laugh

 

so tell me something about yourself that i cannot see from looking at you.

 

'i have no underwear on.'

[Scorpion Fury]

so tell me something about yourself that i cannot see from looking at you.

 

'i have no underwear on.'

 

ahahahahahahahha

[Ac143]

so tell me something about yourself that i cannot see from looking at you.

 

'i have no underwear on.'

 

That would definitely make me laugh. Maybe this is a good question....

[ConfusedDater]

In all honesty, how can a question like this not open the door for HUMOR????

[ghost69]

possibly open the door, but you cannot make that question humorous.

[Ac143]

I have sat here and thought about HOW to make that question funny & I haven't thought of one yet....& usually Im a pretty humorus person!

 

The answer is a different story, it can go sooo many different ways lol

[Up and Down]

Here's an article I just saw related to this:

 

Guys: 10 First-Date Fumbles

 

Want to increase your chances of getting to date #2? Don't make the mistakes THESE guys did…

 

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[hockeyboy]

No, it sucks.

 

Once again, you are treating dating like an interview or something to be scripted. STOP trying to choreograph dating.

 

i was writing a response but this summed it up.

[jenny_mcs]

I won't get to use it until I found a job but I will keep it in mind for the future, I was flicking channels today and came accross a guy saying this to a girl after they ordered their food

 

 

"So tell me something about you that I can't tell from just looking at you"

 

 

what a great opening question for a first date. Anyone agree?

 

 

Disagree. Very lame.

 

Would you like it if a woman asked you this question on a first date? I bet you would come home and start a thread freaking out about this weird woman who was asking you job interview questions on a first date.

[Batya33]

I agree it's too canned/interview question. My positive first dates/first meets were where the conversation "flowed" - the flow is interrupted by questions like that.

[Brightest Dark]

I wouldn't mind being asked that question. I think it's pretty good. I think dates are to find out more about each other so questions are good. Ok, maybe it's because I'm an interviewer anyway, but I can't imagine going on a date and not asking questions. If someone asked me that I would try and answer it and maybe then turn it to him and ask him the same thing.

[servedcold]

Here's one for you CD that is not overly interviewy:

 

"What's the coolest thing that happened to you this week?"

 

Generally, to avoid a 20 questions vibe in a conversation, don't ask "characteristic-based" "tell me something about yourself" questions. Ask "what if" "what" "why" "how" type questions. Seinfeld's standup routines with all the "Have you ever wondered?" "What's up with?" lead-ins are one example, of course not delivered rhetorically as monologues though.

[Daligal83]

If I was asked a clearly constructed question like that, I would think the guy doesn't have enough social skills to carry on a conversation on his own and has to plan backup statements ahead of time. That would definitely be a turnoff to me.