cruzer Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 If someone is not really into you, but maybe going along with the flow if someone is enjoying the attention, the flirting, the caring, u show them if someone is stringing u along until someone better comes along how long can it last? a few weeks, a month? 4 months?
waveseer Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 It can last as long as you allow it to last up to a lifetime.
D_Lish Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Until they meet someone I figure....and that could be anytime. Why bother with someone, you know isn't all that 'into' you?
Batya33 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Think of it this way - how long can "what" last? Him deigning to spend time with you? When someone has mediocre interest whether it be romantic or a friendship and are hanging out with you just to pass the time/nothing better to do, what is the "it" that is "lasting"? My analogy is to platonic friendships - in the last year or so I've made a renewed effort not to "chase" people down for plans - not that I ever chased but what I mean is, if I ask a friend to get together, and she doesn't respond in any reasonable amount of time, I might ask one more time but otherwise the ball is in her court - and I don't want to hear later on "oh sorry I would have loved to get together but I got so busy". That's fine, but I don't have time to make a second - and definitely not a third -attempt to get together for a meal or for coffee if there is no real response. Doesn't it feel a bit icky to have to convince this guy to spend time with you or, if he agrees to spend time with you, to stick around with any real enthusiasm?
Ac143 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 It can last a week, a month, a year....sadly sometimes longer. If you know they aren't interested do yourself a favor & give'em the boot.
cruzer Posted February 5, 2009 Author Posted February 5, 2009 I dont know that any of what i posted is true, its just a possibility i guess. I was hoping say it was they enjoyed the attention... if they continued talking to me after a few weeks then i could rule that out
ghost69 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 It can last as long as you allow it to last up to a lifetime. bingo. agree 100%.
D_Lish Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I dont know that any of what i posted is true, its just a possibility i guess. I was hoping say it was they enjoyed the attention... if they continued talking to me after a few weeks then i could rule that out Nope. You can never rule out that someone may be just stringing you along and enjoying the attention. People can be strung along for weeks, for months...for years! Why don't you just ask her out. Least then you will have your answer.
cruzer Posted February 6, 2009 Author Posted February 6, 2009 i have asked her out about 6 times, we went out 2 times, she canceled the rest. she says she scared to fall in love again because she has been hurt. i believe her but i dont know what else i can do. how are we going to get to know each other? even if we are just to be friends, if we spend no time together why would we even consider each other as friends? if she has no time for anyone else, why does she bother talking to me? no one can help me, so im just trying to figure out all the possibilities.
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