I really need some advice.. Putting my life on hold..

[MizSeri]

How would any of you guys handle this?

 

A best friend of my best friend is in the military. Since he has such a high status with my best friend, every time he is in town, we all hang out. When he's here, there's flirting back and forth and a real connection between us.

 

The last time he was here, I had to be at work really early the next day so I kinda shot him down when he asked me out, but I REALLY like him, it was just bad timing.

 

I'm friends with him on MySpace and even though he is in Iraq, he does log onto his page fairly often. I told him how I feel and that I really want to see if we could have something together and his response was "I can't do another long distance relationship right now, my last girl tore my heart out, but we'll see what happens when I come home in April"

 

Ever since then, I have sent him messages that he has read and ignored. Not even flirty "I think I'm your girlfriend now" messages, just.. How are you? what's it like out there? anything exciting happen lately?

 

I understand that he wanted to wait for a relationship possibility, but is that a reason to completely ignore me? Should I just dismiss the fact that he hasn't replied because in all reality, he's in the middle of a war or should I see it as a hint that he's not interested anymore?

 

I don't know.. I'm waiting for him and I already have been for over a year, I'm so afraid that if he comes home to visit and he really isn't interested I'll be crushed. Opinions would be wonderful.

[dreamwarrior]

Keep going on with your life...if it's meant to be it will happen. Have fun, study hard, date guys, and take care of yourself. Personally, I would never tell a guy I am interested in him unless he made it clear to me that he was interested and he would surely have to tell me he loved me first and not just say the words, but back it up with actions.

 

Yes, he is in the middle of a nasty war and probably trying to keep himself alive...perhaps there are things he would like to tell you, but don't want to get your hopes up in case he (hate to say this) don't come back. Not to mention he already went through a painful experience with someone and perhaps cannot deal with the worry of a relationship when his life is in constant jeopardy.

[columbine]

He is in the middle of a war. I really don't mean this to sound unkind, but you probably aren't on the forefront of his mind. Being where he is, what kind of a relationship would it be, anyway? Take his advice and wait for him to come home, when you can really talk and get to know each other well. Until then, date other people who you have more in common with. Don't be downhearted. Just think of it realistically.