jt214 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 Hi, i'm a freshmen in college and lately i've been worrying about how young i look compared to the other kids here. I am 6'2'' and i dress like the other guys here but i have a very young looking face. I constantly feel like people are staring at me when i walk by them, whether it be on the street, in class, or at the dining hall because of how young i look. I absolutely can't stand it when someone asks me how old i am or if someone says "wow, you look like you're 12". I don't actually think i look like i am 12 but i don't look old enough to be in college. Before i came here i went to a small school where everyone knew each other so i guess i didn't pay as much attention to looking young as i do now. I have made lots of friends here in college but i cant shake this feeling of looking younger than everyone else and i think it has affected my self-esteem, especially around girls Anyone that has any advice on how to shake this feeling or has the same problem please help!
greywolf Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 People tell me that I look young for my age too. Don't worry about it though. When you're 30 you'll still look young. Besides, I like young-looking guys.
Salicia Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Yeah, don't worry about how young you look. I'm 20 years old, sophomore in college, 5'7" and there are some people out there who look at me and assume that I might be a freshman in high school or in late middle school because of how young I look. Take it as a blessing. I also don't wear much makeup at all so it may exaggerate that I may be in high school when I'm not.
Ac143 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Do you have any face facial? That usually makes men look younger if that's what you are looking to do.
keenan Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 when i was in my early twenties and complained about looking young, older people would always get all jokey and annoying and say, "well, gosh ~ you'll sure appreciate that when you're older, hahaha." hilarious. but at the age of 34 i'm now here to say to you... Well, gosh ~ you'll sure appreciate that when you're older! still annoying, but still true. (but i do sympathize from a distance of many years)
makeupgrl99 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 People tell me that I look young for my age too. Don't worry about it though. When you're 30 you'll still look young. Besides, I like young-looking guys. Same here, I'm in my mid 20s and I could pass for 18. And I agree, I'm attracted to younger looking guys then older.
chigal28 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I sympathize!! I am 31, but even though I wear makeup and dress very professionally, people still think I'm in my late teens or early 20s. It's pretty frustrating, actually, but I've learned to laugh about it and use it as an icebreaker. Example: Last week I was talking with some businesswomen I had just met at a function in my school district, and I mentioned something about high school. One of the ladies said something to the effect of "well, that can't have been very long ago for you!" Not in a mean way...but still...don't they hear how that sounds? It's like people assume others just can't take offense to being called young-looking. I'm never OFFENDED, exactly, but I really don't like to have it pointed out all the time, especially when I'm trying to build respect for myself in my new career. Whenever people say "you must get carded all the time," I just laugh and say something like "I'll be sad the day they stop!" or tell a funny story about this one time when I was taking pictures at an elementary school for my old job, and I got caught in the throngs of students waiting for their busses at the end of the day. A teacher tapped me on the shoulder and asked what bus line I was supposed to be in. This was LAST year, I was 30 years old, and I got mistaken for a freaking THIRD grader from behind. I had a ponytail in and warm parka on that day, but--really?!?! Sigh.
lost1607307474 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I'm a 21 year old female and although I've finished a university degree, people are always asking me what year of school I'm in. It's annoying and upsets me a lot of the time. But my advice: enjoy it while it lasts! Millions of people would love to look younger. You'll appreciate it when you're older. But in the meantime, as long as you present yourself maturely as people get to know you they will know that you are older than you look. Don't worry about it, it's not a bad thing
poloplayer Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I'm 27, but am taking college level prereq. courses at night for a career change. I couldn't make a night class one evening, so I went to the day school class as a make-up (it was a lab). I started chatting with my lab team, and eventually they asked if I was a sophmore or a junior. I played along, and told them that I'm a senior. They couldn't believe it. I got invited to a frat party that weekend, and one of the girls gave me her number. I didn't attend the party, or call the girl, as I felt that was creepy, but I got a good laugh out of it. When I tell people I graduated not too long ago, they ask me what high school. I've even been asked what high school do I go to, by a high school kid most recently, as we were both waiting for a train. Kid tells me he goes to XYZ High and asks 'what about you?' Still carded if I walk into a bar as well. I'll take them all as complements You'll appreciate it much more as you get older.
glegend Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I'm second year college, 19 years old, about 5'10, I have a goateee. Some people see me as older, and I know because I've been told that. I feel tiny compared to others, I feel like how you feel. I just its a phase or state of mind.
CaptainPlanet Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Its good I am 25 and I look 30, not good. You can still hit on young girls. They're cute too. Good luck.
IamTrentius Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I'm 20 and I'm a bit young-looking too. I grew in sideburns and a goatee and it makes me look a bit older (where as before, i guess i looked 16, lol)
george237 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 It's amazing what a change of hair style will do. Look at your hair and then look at people a few years older then you. Maybe that will help.
keenan Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 It's amazing what a change of hair style will do. Look at your hair and then look at people a few years older then you. Maybe that will help. For example, a comb-over will add decades!
george237 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 For example, a comb-over will add decades! hahaha but trump still has a hot wife, so yeah go for it.
CaseOfInsanity Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Maybe you could start working out perhaps if you haven't yet. People used to say I looked really young so I started working out last year and now people say I look like 20 although I'm 18. (And I'm pretty short, 5'7) I don't know whether that's a good thing or not though =S
Simply Brett Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 My younger brother gets a lot of grief from people because although he is legally an adult and has been for a couple years, he looks like he is 14. He just doesn't seem to age, and being short doesn't help either. Acne on his face, and a higher voice also ad to the problem unfortunately. He has found that keeping his hair cut short and neat, along with the way he dresses and carries himself - he is able to command much more respect being the adult that he is. He isn't able to grow facial hair either, so that isn't doing him any favors. Dress and act in a mature fashion and let your demeanor and manners portray you as an adult, regardless of how youthful you look.
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