elizmdavis Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 We had the talk last night. It went suprisingly well. I do feel more at peace today...but it's as if reality is finally setting, so coping with that isn't very fun. We came to the conclusion that taking a step back to re-evaluate things is what is best right now. I told him that it wouldn't be the best thing for us if we continued things as they have been (yunno, me waiting...him not doing much and still living at home). It wouldn't be fair to him because I would have a "secret remorse" toward him like I have for so long (because he isn't getting a move on!) He agreed and said he feels pathetic for living at home and that it would be unfair for me to wait, especially when he is uncertain about his life right now. We just came to an agreement that we have some things to figure out on our own. So thats pretty much it. It's good because he claims to be driven now to get independent and that is what he will be working on. I said I am going to sort out my feelings and figure out what is best for me. I do not know what our fate will be. I am only focused on the present because I want to do what is best for me. I am proud because I stayed true to myself. This is something that could have been an option a long time ago when my heart was first broken by his lack of drive. I didn't know any better back then....so I stayed on the rollercoaster. I could only ride for so long before I got all out of whack! Time to put myself back together...it's gonna take time.
parlae Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 that's great, girl. i've been lookin forward to hearin what's been goin on with you & your guy. i'm glad to hear that the talk went well. & also that he's feeling more driven to become independent. hopefully this "break" is actually a blessing in disguise. who knows... he may surprise you & actually do everything he has promised this time and it may make your relationship better than it ever was before i wish you the best of luck and also, just wanted to point out.. you sound like a very strong woman and i look up to that i dont think i could be as optimistic as you are if i were in your position.
Seymore Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 I am proud because I stayed true to myself. This is something that could have been an option a long time ago when my heart was first broken by his lack of drive. I didn't know any better back then....so I stayed on the rollercoaster. I could only ride for so long before I got all out of whack! Time to put myself back together...it's gonna take time. Ah, the rollercoaster. Kudos to you for finally freeing yourself from it. You may be kicking yourself, seeing all the opportunities you had to get off the rollercoaster, but you cared enough about you to finally realize what you need and deserve and that's great.
elizmdavis Posted February 8, 2009 Author Posted February 8, 2009 hopefully this "break" is actually a blessing in disguise. and also, just wanted to point out.. you sound like a very strong woman and i look up to that i dont think i could be as optimistic as you are if i were in your position. Thank you for your encouragement. Although the decison made me have peace that day, I am having a "low" night tonight... so I truly appreciate the positive words. I think this break will eventually be a blessing. It needed to happen. Usually blessings feel remarkably blissful, but thats not happening just yet. Right now this blessing is disguised as a painful and heartbreaking time in my life. But it needed to happen and in time the disguise will come off.
elizmdavis Posted February 8, 2009 Author Posted February 8, 2009 Ah, the rollercoaster. Kudos to you for finally freeing yourself from it. You may be kicking yourself, seeing all the opportunities you had to get off the rollercoaster, but you cared enough about you to finally realize what you need and deserve and that's great. Thank you Seymore. BTW I like your picture, it's cool! Thank you for reinforcing the fact that I freed myself. The other day my best friend told me she finally was pregnent (she and her husband have been trying forever!) and I was so proud of her. When I was with my ex and would get news like this (marriage or babies) it would make me feel sad as if I wasn't getting those things anytime soon. But I felt truly hopeful for myself this time around. Eventhough news like that isn't any easier to hear admist a break up, I considered it a positive for me
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