stranded247 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 This is really pathetic of me and probably my own insecurities but I feel like my boyfriend might just be attracted to me for my personality. I guess thats fine but I'd like it if he liked me for looks and personality. I think the reason I think this is because he hasn't really ever complimented me on my looks other than teasing me and saying 'you're yummy' and telling me i'm cuter than him. I suppose we've only been exclusive for two weeks and he doesn't often pay compliments anyway. Do you guys think i'm being paranoid or is it normal to feel like this?
Rose21 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 I think it would be better for him to like you for JUST your personality, vs. JUST your looks.
avman Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 Having someone love you for your personality is much better than just loving you for your body. And you mentioned he has complimented you on your looks a couple of times already. It's only been a couple of weeks. Relax a bit and just keep getting to know each other.
Adge Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 Two weeks is a very small amount of time. Relax!
riley123 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 I agree with the others...you're being paranoid because you'll be better off with a guy (especially at your age) who appreciates you for your mind and what you have to say rather than just trying to get in your pants.
columbine Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 You're being paranoid, it's early days yet, and it sounds to me like he has complimented you on the way you look. Be glad he loves your personality, it's far more important.
CatsMeeoow Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 I would rather have a guy be attracted to what makes me tic rather than the size of my * * * * ....
cruzer Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 Trust me, he would not be with you, if he did not like your looks. Sadly, u could have the best possible personality and be 300lbs, no average sized guy would ever consider you.
stranded247 Posted February 4, 2009 Author Posted February 4, 2009 Trust me, he would not be with you, if he did not like your looks. Sadly, u could have the best possible personality and be 300lbs, no average sized guy would ever consider you. thats true, I guess I am just being paranoid, I really shouldn't seek validation from guys. Fortunately I'm far far from 300lbs, although i've heard there is a fettish for very overweight people so sometimes they must get lucky.
keenan Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 No offense intended to any of the lovely guys here, but IMO it's pretty unlikely that a guy would be with you for ONLY your personality. It's not really what they're known for. ;-P (The same is true for women!) In other words...don't worry ~ he finds you attractive, else you wouldn't have made it past Round 1. But the others are right...it's only been 2 weeks and it does sound like he's complemented you. My only actual advice is to be (and act) confident. Even if you're curious, don't excessively fish for complements or seem insecure about your looks if you can help it. (Not saying that you are, but just that you might be tempted to do that if you find that he doesn't make you feel beautiful with his words.)
stranded247 Posted February 4, 2009 Author Posted February 4, 2009 No offense intended to any of the lovely guys here, but IMO it's pretty unlikely that a guy would be with you for ONLY your personality. It's not really what they're known for. ;-P (The same is true for women!) In other words...don't worry ~ he finds you attractive, else you wouldn't have made it past Round 1. But the others are right...it's only been 2 weeks and it does sound like he's complemented you. My only actual advice is to be (and act) confident. Even if you're curious, don't excessively fish for complements or seem insecure about your looks if you can help it. (Not saying that you are, but just that you might be tempted to do that if you find that he doesn't make you feel beautiful with his words.) Wow he just told me that he thought we should go on a proper date so he can get to know me better because he feels he doesn't know me that well, because we've just been making out. So I must be wrong.
JadedStar Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 If he has called you 'yummy' before I have no doubt he likes your looks.
grymoire Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 No offense intended to any of the lovely guys here, but IMO it's pretty unlikely that a guy would be with you for ONLY your personality. It's not really what they're known for. ;-P (The same is true for women!) We are in it ONLY for sex and nothing else. I repeat.. We are in it ONLY for sex and nothing else. haa... now I feel much better!
JadedStar Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 We are in it ONLY for sex and nothing else. I repeat.. We are in it ONLY for sex and nothing else. haa... now I feel much better! But are you in it for sex? lol
laisla Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 of course he is attracted to you, he wouldn't be with you if he wasn't.
grymoire Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 But are you in it for sex? lol Yup!! I am totally into Dating and Relationships only for sex Today morning I read a post here in ENA from a woman that implied that when a guy asks a girl out for a date it means he wants to get into her pants.. I respond back questioning it... I come back in the afternoon and see another post from another woman in another thread implying that when a guy says he wants to experience different things that means he wants to have sex with different girls (but not so when a girl says the exact same thing).. I again respond back... and now I come here and read another post that.... oh hey.. you get the idea.... ... and again I respond now, but this time though there is no questioning it... yep.. we men are into women ONLY for SEX yayyyyyyyyyyyyy!
keenan Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 We are in it ONLY for sex and nothing else. I repeat.. We are in it ONLY for sex and nothing else. haa... now I feel much better! lol. just like we're only in it for the money....
grymoire Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 lol. just like we're only in it for the money.... YUP! Totally!!!!! When a guy asks you for a date and if you accept it you were in it ONLY for the money. Not about getting to know him as a person. Yayyyyyyyyyyyy!!! Today is the day of revelation for ENA lol
cruzer Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Wow he just told me that he thought we should go on a proper date so he can get to know me better because he feels he doesn't know me that well, because we've just been making out. So I must be wrong. Sigh, now what if he finds out he does not really like you, he just likes your body? Then what? I have not really dated much but this is why i say dont just jump into a relationship or into the physical stuff. he did not even know you, he just made out with u cuz u were hot. not saying he is bad or it wont work, but good luck
stranded247 Posted February 5, 2009 Author Posted February 5, 2009 Sigh, now what if he finds out he does not really like you, he just likes your body? Then what? I have not really dated much but this is why i say dont just jump into a relationship or into the physical stuff. he did not even know you, he just made out with u cuz u were hot. not saying he is bad or it wont work, but good luck No we've known eachother since last october so thats about 4 months, and we've liked eachother those whole four months before anything came of it, he just meant that he still feels that he doesn't know me THAT well and so he wants to know me better which is why he's taking me out for lunch. If he just likes my looks and body then obviously things will collapse and we'll break up. But I'm a little more optimistic than that.
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