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Hey everyone. Put plain and simply, i'm tired of being bored and alone all the time. I want to get out and meet new people and hopefully snag a girl. Maybe you all can help me out.

 

-I'm 19 years old.

-I dont have a job.

-I go to the local community college full time.

-I live with my parents.(finally moved to the basement!)

-I really only have one friend who i actually hang out with. My cousin. And he has woman issues too. All we do is play video games when we hang out.

-When i'm not at college or sleeping, i'm sitting infront of this here computer either playing games or on browsing ena.

-I really don't have any hobbies anymore. I'm not an athlete.

 

So I sit here thinking i'm not a horrible looking guy.. and i've got a pretty good personality once you get to know me. It's just the problem is making it so people actually want to get to know me.. I just dont know where to start. Any advice?

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-get a job, even a part time one.. it will help you meet some people even if you don't need the money

 

-volunteer. again you will meet all sorts of people doing that

 

-find some hobbies. you being in college, it should be easy to find activity groups you can partake in

 

-take up an intramural/recreational sport. doesn't have to be competitive. helps if women are on the team lol

 

- don't spend all your time in front of the pc.

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Basically you just have to get out there. You are not going to meet women sitting inside all day playing video games. First, you need to build up your friendship basis. Join clubs or activities that your community college runs. Try to get involved in as many things as you can. Meet people, even if it just means striking up a conversation with someone at school. You'll meet more people, make more friends, go out more, and then meet more women!

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Thanks for the replies.

 

See if a girl is forced to be in my presense, i can talk to her. Like, if we share a class together, or she's a friends friend or something but our "friendship" doesn't exist outside of that classroom.

 

There's a couple girls in my photography class who i'm able to talk to about photography stuff. The only problem is the girls in that class are either extremely gorgeous or quite unattractive. There is no in between which is what i would actually consider in my league. The hot girls are too intimidating and taken anyway, and the ugly girls i am worried will start to like me... and i'll have to turn them down.

 

I think i'm just shallow..

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-get a job, even a part time one.. it will help you meet some people even if you don't need the money

 

-volunteer. again you will meet all sorts of people doing that

 

-find some hobbies. you being in college, it should be easy to find activity groups you can partake in

 

-take up an intramural/recreational sport. doesn't have to be competitive. helps if women are on the team lol

 

- don't spend all your time in front of the pc.

 

i agree with this man. hows your clothing style. women and people do judge alittle by this.

 

try going to a gym and working out. it will do wonders for your overall self confidence. You just have to be friendly and start casual conversation. do not shelter your life to video games and the computer.

 

can you post a pic so we can give you some pointers about your appearance and style?

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I like all the cliche advice that's been thrown about. But the truth of the matter is that trying to fit somebody else's standards for the sake of female company in the end is not worth it. Believe me, you're better off in front of a PC. Trying to deal with humanity is a futile effort in these times.

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What do you want bro? I told you a resource that can open your eyes up to the fact that you can be average looking and still get the best looking girls, but you ignored it.

 

I'm not selling anything here, so believe this as you wish: You can get great girls, but you have to learn how to do it. Whether you want to do the work, that's up to you.

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Contacts, a body-hugging jacket, a tighter tshirt, build some shoulders (you might have them but I can't tell). Let your hair grow out just a little (not unkempt but a tiny bit undone).

 

Of course, I'm in the next generation up so my opinion may not be what your peers would suggest.

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What do you want bro? I told you a resource that can open your eyes up to the fact that you can be average looking and still get the best looking girls, but you ignored it.

 

I'm not selling anything here, so believe this as you wish: You can get great girls, but you have to learn how to do it. Whether you want to do the work, that's up to you.

 

Can't read a book in a day bro!

 

Contacts, a body-hugging jacket, a tighter tshirt, build some shoulders (you might have them but I can't tell). Let your hair grow out just a little (not unkempt but a tiny bit undone).

 

Of course, I'm in the next generation up so my opinion may not be what your peers would suggest.

 

A girl recently suggested contacts aswell. unfortunately i just bought new glasses so idk how much contacts would cost but they wouldnt be covered by insurance!

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ur cute!

 

Contacts would be good, and they aren't too expensive. The kind I buy is 13 dollars for a pack of 3 pair, and each pair lasts a month, so not expensive at all.

 

Also I agree with growing out your hair a little and wearing tighter fitted clothes. Go to Old Navy or somewhere and get some collared shirts or something, and I personally think guys look cute when they wear converse shoes, but I have no idea if that's your style.

 

As far as meeting girls, yeah you need to get involved in stuff. The only places I've met someone who I dated was always a part time job or a volunteering thing.

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Can't read a book in a day bro!

Well, that depends on what day. It took me 3 days to read it, but if you have a Sunday open, skip playing video games and knock it out. In any case, read the book instead of posting on this thread. If you're having trouble getting it, PM me and I'll tell you where to look.

 

If you're serious about doing this, I'll take you under my wing and steer you in the right direction. But you gotta want it...

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ur cute!

 

Contacts would be good, and they aren't too expensive. The kind I buy is 13 dollars for a pack of 3 pair, and each pair lasts a month, so not expensive at all.

 

Also I agree with growing out your hair a little and wearing tighter fitted clothes. Go to Old Navy or somewhere and get some collared shirts or something, and I personally think guys look cute when they wear converse shoes, but I have no idea if that's your style.

 

As far as meeting girls, yeah you need to get involved in stuff. The only places I've met someone who I dated was always a part time job or a volunteering thing.

 

Do you have to go to the eye doctor and get prescription contacts or do you just like.. buy your prescription online or something? i have no idea how that works.

 

I dont really have a style lol. I dont really see myself as a converse guy though. The problem with changing my look is that i'd have to buy alot of new stuff to replace all this crappy old stuff

 

Where'd you volunteer? and why?

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Well, that depends on what day. It took me 3 days to read it, but if you have a Sunday open, skip playing video games and knock it out. In any case, read the book instead of posting on this thread. If you're having trouble getting it, PM me and I'll tell you where to look.

 

If you're serious about doing this, I'll take you under my wing and steer you in the right direction. But you gotta want it...

 

I'll look around for the book. shouldn't be too hard. As for you taking me under your wing, i dont think you want to be adding any stress to your life, lol.

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Do you have to go to the eye doctor and get prescription contacts or do you just like.. buy your prescription online or something? i have no idea how that works.

 

You have to make an appointment with your optometrist because they need to measure your eye to get the right size contact lens, as well as the right prescription. Over here, my contact lenses are covered by the extras cover on my insurance, and don't end up too expensive. Plus they're very handy, I hate wearing my glasses.

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P.S. I don't see anything wrong with your glasses anyway!

 

Yea i dont think i look particularly bad with them but i guess it doesnt really matter what i think!!! it's all bout what the girls think..

 

anyway i guess what i dislike the most about myself would be my acne, hair, clothes, and my bubba lips

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Anything jumping out at you now that might give you a clue what your problem is?

 

Step 1: Turn off the computer. That means no computer games and/or porn. Turn that crap off. Once in a while is fine, but none is best as that stuff has a tendency to pull you back into your old habits.

Step 2: Talk to women at your community college. For that matter, talk to everybody.

Step 3: Get a hobby, preferably something that has you interacting with women. Adult intramural sports are a good start. I also suggest getting involved in social groups on link removed

 

 

The problem most guys have is they don't know how to sell themselves, or put their best foot forward so to speak. If you're still having women problems after a month of following the above steps, then you need to invest some work in your people skills, just as someone that wants to get in shape will need to spend some time in a gym. For that, I strongly suggest you pick up a copy of Rules of the Game by Neil Strauss. It's basically a 30 day workout regimen for your social skills and almost always results in 1 or more dates by the end of the program. A lot of guys don't even finish it because they get so much interest from women they don't have any need to continue. It's that good Also, my blog has some turn-key solutions you can immediately apply for improving your skills with approaching and attracting women.

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Interesting. It's been almost 3 months since i made this post and it's been pointed out to me that i haven't changed a single thing. I'm still the exact same guy i was describing in my original post.

 

I sit here every day hating my life wishing it was better. wishing i was happy like everyone else but in the end, it's simply my fault. If i can't even take the initiative to follow through with the advice givin to me what hope is there? Come to think of it, why did i even bother to ask for help if i wasnt going to change anything.

 

My apologies to all who posted in this thread.

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Interesting. It's been almost 3 months since i made this post and it's been pointed out to me that i haven't changed a single thing. I'm still the exact same guy i was describing in my original post.

 

I sit here every day hating my life wishing it was better. wishing i was happy like everyone else but in the end, it's simply my fault. If i can't even take the initiative to follow through with the advice givin to me what hope is there? Come to think of it, why did i even bother to ask for help if i wasnt going to change anything.

 

My apologies to all who posted in this thread.

 

Take the games system, sell it, use the money to buy clothes/contacts/whatever.

 

Go for a run.

 

When you get back join the local library, borrow the above book, read it. Write down all your good points, however few or small you think they are. When you next see your cousin go OUTSIDE and do something (take photos?).

 

Find a job/volunteer position etc.

 

Come back when you have done all of the above.

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