Will this help or hurt me?

[Onthoi]

Hello all. So the girl that I broke up with about 2 months ago and got back to together on and off for those months is officially out of my life since 2 weeks ago. I've been thinking of her every now and then but it's subsiding. I met a new girl that I am only friends with but it has potential to be something more. I'm not getting involved because I still feel for my ex but I am trying my best to get over her.

 

Here's the bump I'm trying to get over. When we broke it off we both told each other that we really do love each other and that we hope we both live a good live yadda yadda. I ended it because she couldn't make up her mind about whether or not we should try again. I was ready to try again because I love her and I would try anything to make us work. She insisted that she loved me but she didn't want to get hurt again. (for the record she means hurt as in us breaking up again not as in me cheating or doing something bad because I never did) She pulled this "I don't know" move the past 3 times we tried to get together and this time I wasn't going to stand for it. I ended it saying that if you truly loved me you wouldn't have trouble figuring this out and that was that.

 

Now, 2-3 weeks later, I want to get a hold of her and ask her if she had sorted her feelings yet. Not because I want to get back with her (which I do but it's for the best we stay apart) but rather so I can possibly have a little closure on what the hell was going on through her head. While we were getting back together we were intimate a few times which also confused me. I asked her how she can say she loves me and she can have sex with me but she doesn't want to date me??? She said she feels comfortable physically with me but when we are apart she thinks of all the problems we might have and she doesn't want us to break up again because it would hurt her.

 

I just can't make sense of all these boggled thoughts and I think that's what's weighing me down a bit. I feel as though if I could get closure I could move on a bit faster. Anyway. I was hoping maybe someone could possibly decipher her riddles or at least convince me it's not something to worry about. Anything at this point would be good. I mean should I get a hold of her with the possibility of having an answer or should I forget about it? Thanks.

[ScubaDiva]

It sounds to me that she fancies someone else hence the "confusion". Call me sceptical but this is why people act in that manner - the confusion will become clarity in time...