Iwantittoend Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 All I ever hear or read about is how what a girl is saying isn't what she truly means. How there is some other meaning to it that she isn't saying. Or to look for certain signs to know if she's getting sick of me or not. Why can't girls just be real and upfront? Why must there always be some hidden agenda? I'm just sick of having to deal with stupid **** like this.
EQD Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 if it makes you feel any better its not gender specific.
allypally Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 It isn't just girls who play games - if the relationship is very new, everyone, to some extent plays games as they are not sure how the other person feels, what their agenda is etc. Even if we are upfront, guys would probably think weren't and that we didn't mean what we said! Its just the way it goes, and over time people get more 'real' and you know where you stand.
Stars_n_Guitars Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 if it makes you feel any better its not gender specific. exactly right!
columbine Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 it's not specifically girls, it's just cowardly people. I don't waste my time on people who can't say what they mean any more. If you're shy, or afraid of being hurt that's fair enough but people who don't have the balls to be honest and quit playing with peoples hearts are just horrible.
Iwantittoend Posted February 3, 2009 Author Posted February 3, 2009 if it makes you feel any better its not gender specific. I understand that both genders play games, but in my experience every girl I've gotten close to has some type of hidden agenda that I find out later on. They put up this great front and then tear me down at the end.
EQD Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 I understand that both genders play games, but in my experience every girl I've gotten close to has some type of hidden agenda that I find out later on. They put up this great front and then tear me down at the end. you wont find a daisy if you keep looking in the weeds. its up to everyone who so desires to avoid these people. figure out what the red flags are, adjust your list of what is and isnt acceptable. we've all gotten frustrated by people like this, but its a lesson that you are meant to learn from, as compared to repeating the same mistakes. dont lose hope.
columbine Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 You actually need to let them know you think they are too. If they do that to you, then tell them it's out of order. People get away with so much by making the ones they tear down feel humiliated. Humiliate them back, confront them as to why they treat you like it. They have no legitimate answer and they realize their game is transparent.
Clementine orange Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 It's the same reason why male dogs lick their balls (testicles) - it's because they can. The minute you indicate that you will not put up with games then that's when the games stop yes, guys play games too.
Ac143 Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Anyone that is really interested in you & a real relationship there wont be game playing. If there are games - you should walk away from these people. Girls/guys play them because the other person allows them to.
jettison Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Every one of us plays games when it comes to love with zero exceptions to that rule. If you don't think that's true, and you happen to believe that you are some enlightened being instead, different then all the rest of us, then you are actually the very worst kind of offender because you are even playing games with yourself.
Clementine orange Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Every one of us plays games when it comes to love with zero exceptions to that rule. If you don't think that's true, and you happen to believe that you are some enlightened being instead, different then all the rest of us, then you are actually the very worst kind of offender because you are even playing games with yourself. Probably true - maybe it's the extent and cruelty levels of the game that causes problems. I'm thinking about dancing...that's a game isn't it, a gamey prelude to sex...smouldering looks accross the floor - some games are fun and all just part of it - what on earth am I talking about.
delicous Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Because Most of us girls DO! To find out how interested the guy really is and to see how far theyd go to be with us,like Cancelling dates and seeing the guy at a certain time, we test you guys more than you think LOL, but if your a good guy and pass all our test then we normally will not play anymore games...Oh yeah by the way, Us girls speak in Code!
columbine Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 i think canceling dates is a stupid test. I admit i have done it but i would never do it now, i think it's low, and if you like someone, you organize a date, and you go on it! simple. Working out whether a guy likes you can be done through the dates themselves.
thejigsup Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Delicous just hit the nail on the head. Sometimes gameplaying is the only way to find out how a man really feels about you. Most men do not wear their hearts on their sleeves and we do. That confuses and threatens us, so we find out how you really feel in other ways. I know you guys hate the "relationship" talk, so we are sparing you this. If you pass the tests, and there are many, the games come to a complete stop. BUT...only a chosen few get this. I am open, honest, and upfront with my bf, but that took time. It doesn't happen overnight, no one is THAT secure! Guys play games, also. Just different ones. As long as they are not malicious games, they are more fact-finding missions than anythng else.
Stars_n_Guitars Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 I do not test guys by cancelling dates. If I say I'm going to be somewhere at a certain time, I will be or I'll call and let them know what's going on. All the females that play games give men a bad taste for all women! Why can't people just treat others as they would want to be treated?
Crovax Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 I agree with everyone who has said that these types are cowards and not worth your time, especially columbine. Everyone who's making excuses and saying "that's just how it is," may be correct, but you're still part of the problem.
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