Why shy men should NOT do online dating

[laisla]

i think online dating is good for guys (and girls) who are initially shy (to approach someone) but probably not for the overly shy guys....they might put a little too much emphasis on the randomness of online communication. still, it might allow them to have some practice at the least.

 

3. Half of women who do online dating are looking for perfection, they will have a laundry list of requirements which they will not settle for less online, but if you met them in the real world, they might overlook that you aren't 6'2

 

 

[striker_dude]

As a guy, you'll never be successful with women unless you are happy being single. It doesn't matter for women, and most women need to be in relationships at all time, for a guy to be that way, you make yourself undesirable. Get hobbies, and enjoy your time alone, only then will you be able to date.

 

You're being rigid and you're generalizing, but I agree with most of it.

 

PEOPLE need to be happy alone before they can be successful in relationships, otherwise they'll spend their lives running from one superficial relationship to another, never finding what they're looking for...because they're not looking in the right place.

[Clarity]

I ended up deleting the account a couple of weeks later. If I was to meet someone online, I would at least rather meet them as a result of a place in which we share a common interest, as opposed to a place set up with the pretention of finding a partner.

 

To each his own, but I find your choice of words to be interesting. To me, online dating, when done by mature and responsible people who know what they want (I know, that's talking about like 5% of the online dating community), is one of the *least* pretentious ways of trying to find a match. You're there to find someone, so is everyone else. To me, pretentious would be me joining a special interest group with the primary purpose of meeting women. I have a lot of special interests - but none of them have me meeting up with women on a regular basis, so online dating helps fill that gap for me.

[txblues]

It seems like online dating would be a good idea for a shy guy, so you don't have to ask out a woman. So for that reason, it enables your shyness.

 

The second reason, is that in general, online dating for men is a complete waste of time for several reasons.

 

1. There are way more men than woman online.

 

2. Most women don't "need" to do online dating as they get hit on constantly.

 

3. Half of women who do online dating are looking for perfection, they will have a laundry list of requirements which they will not settle for less online, but if you met them in the real world, they might overlook that you aren't 6'2

 

4. A significant amount of women on dating sites have no intention of dating. They like the ego boost they get from getting 100 responses from guys in a day.

 

i disagree with the perfection part. they are looking for something that fall within the average, and by average its based on looks and heights, external stuff. if you don't fall within the average range it is very difficult to even get a response back. take a look at this profile of this successful, intellegent short man who went from 0 responses to getting many responses and flirts by adding 7 inches to his height. so if you don't fall within average range it can be a waste of time.

 

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