Family Issues

[mmg123]

You may have seen from my previous posts that I have had some pretty serious health issues over the last year and I am now pretty much completely distanced from my family. I feel really lonely. It makes me angry to think about the way they behaved and what they did, yet i feel really sad that I have no relationship with them. I just wish I had a mum and a dad that loved me and it makes me feel sad and a bit envious when I see other people who have parents who love them. People my age are starting to get married and I see the pictures from their weddings and it makes me sad to think that I wont have my parents at my wedding.

 

I still keep in touch with my grandparents - they are the only family I have, because I am completely distanced from the extended family. My parents are the link between me and the extended family and as we don't talk, I don't hear or see from any of them. It is very isolating. I feel like my grandad is disappointed in me because I don't talk to my parents. He doesn't know the whole story why. He just knows that there have been problems in the past. I feel that it is unfair to bring him into it and tell him everything that has happened, as it will just upset him even more. But it upsets me because it feels like he thinks I am bad and that I have let him down. My grandma is still supportive of me and her attitude to me hasn't changed since I stopped talking to my parents and my sister.

 

How do I manage this?

[ErikT]

I haven't read your previous posts, so I don't know the whole story. However, you must have known that when you broke ties with you immediate family, that you would lose contact with your extended family?

 

Why can't you contact your extended family directly? Why do your parents have to "be the link" between you and them?

 

Finally, if the lack of extended family is bothering you enough, then maybe reconciliation between you and your parents would be worth it. Again, I don't know the whole story, but is it possible you can make the attempt to talk with your parents?

[mmg123]

I feel like I am in a situation where whatever I do makes me upset. I had a pretty serious health scare around a year ago and they offered no support. I was pretty guttered by what they didn't do and cut ties. I am upset about their behaviour, but upset at the same time that I don't have parents who love and care for me.