gigglyfreedom Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Ok so im very stuck at the moment.. (this is a question for guys and girls, any opinions or techniques or advice would be great!) i never NEVER get past the laughing with a girl i like or being friendly stage. I have reached stages of a flirty connection with people (girls i like) and suddenly, i seem to run out of ideas, i run out of things to say, in one week or so the whole connection can just die out. i am as well overcome by my fear of being rejected or that they will somehow realize i am hitting on them and feel 'uncomfortable' (whether it be because they are straight or because they dont return the interest). i know this isnt helping in my flirting self esteem which i need to improve, but i also know that i just dont know how to seduce females!! and i am one myself!! HOW DO YOU SEDUCE A FEMALE?? how do you flirt with another female?? what do you say? how do you say it? do you change your tone of voice to a more 'sexy' one?? HELP!! (im also quite energetic and apparently with a sense of humour - some people at least have told me), so maybe girls wouldnt even think i was being serious!! help!! HOW do i flirt?? thanks!!
greywolf Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 First off, do you know if these girls you try to flirt with are bisexual or lesbians? I think it's mostly the same as how you'd act with a gay except maybe you wouldn't act as girly. Ugh... honestly I'm not sure. We don't have very many role models, do we?
kaoticbaby Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 First off, do you know if these girls you try to flirt with are bisexual or lesbians? I think it's mostly the same as how you'd act with a gay except maybe you wouldn't act as girly. Ugh... honestly I'm not sure. We don't have very many role models, do we? aw grey i knew you'd reply to this thread!! cheer up, i know you at least out of all people are going to find someone who thinks you're amazing, whether they be a guy or a girl.
greywolf Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Thanks kbaby OP: I'm at work right now, but when I get home I'm going to give your post some thought and answer it correctly.
lukeb Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Sounds to me flirting isnt your problem, it is the dying out in a few weeks that is the problem?
Taomagicdragon Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 I would first find out if your targets are interested in lesbian/bisexual relationships first off either directly or indirectly. Otherwise it follows similar avenues one would take to establish a relationship (romantically) with anyone.
Penny_Lane Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Hmmm when I flirt with other girls, I don't really think about it, it just sorta happens. If examined I guess one would say that I look at them differently, alot more eye contact, my eyes often wander to delicate parts of their body (breasts, collar bones, hips), I laught at all their jokes, compliment them, I smile and smirk alot more, I lick my lips, etc. Every girl is different, there isn't one sure way to seduce a female. It's whatever makes their heart skip a beat.
unabashed Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 If I'm single and want to meet someone, I tend to start by just talking with someone I find attractive. By getting to know them a little and communicating, a better connection is established. If there is flirting, it's usually mutual. As long as you encourage it with responses, it kind of develops a life of its own. I don't start off by thinking about how to flirt, it just happens if there is a connection first--if that makes sense. There is definitely increased eye contact, blushing, some brief touching, etc. But, that isn't something I think about doing--it's more of a byproduct of the attraction. So...maybe I'm suggesting that a way to see it through to the end is by making a real connection to the person at the beginning. Good luck!!
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