Think I should drop a MAJOR hint that I like him???

[renaissancewoman101]

I have posted threads about this before:

 

 

 

 

 

Yes, I am attracted to him and like him. I'm still NOT sure if he likes me or not. I know he likes me as a friend. There is also another girl who is a fencer and who ALSO likes him (she's given off some major signals in that respect, like staying after practice to talk to him, hanging around him, etc)

 

As of late, I see him more often since I hang out with his group of friends outside of fencing practice. Just yesterday, he asked me to come over to a party at our mutual friends' house.

 

And he takes the time to teach me fencing moves and train me.

 

I do hang around after practice to chat with him and so does that other girl. Just last Sunday, she and I BOTH went after practice to hang out with him at the house of the mutual friend. I didn't stay that late because I had to work early on Monday. This Sunday, she wasnt at practice, so he worked with me on fencing stuff and then I later went to the party (that he invited me to).

 

I'm not sure how to read him. I know, I know, most people would say that he isn't interested in me, unless he asks me out. But then he jokes around with me more, does things to me in a jokey way (like I would do to someone, if I was interested in them). He makes jokes at me, pulls practical jokes on me, and just goofs around with me. It's hard for me to deal becuse I tend to be really tense and not-relaxed and don't know how to take it.

 

Yesterday, after practice, I was talking to the head of our fencing group, about dining arrangements out at that camping event I am going to next week. My buddy overheard our conversation and later on, made a snide comment/joke about if I was going to join the group of those people, instead of his group. Someone later told me that he was a bit "jealous" that I might want to join that other group.

 

I dunno. I know I will see him at that camping event, although my "archenemy" (the other girl who likes him), is coming along too, and is riding with me. He might hitch a ride back with us (he asked me if he could but he wasn;t sure), since he wants to come back early and we are coming back a day earlier than most people.

 

I'm not really fond about camping for 5 days, but I will do it, if I get to hang out with him and his friends. And I don't want to look like the stuck up one (who is sissy and decides to stay at a motel instead of camping).

 

I want to cut the chase and maybe ask him out, but if it falls flat, I look stupid.

 

What should I do?

[DaBladeRoden]

I want to cut the chase and maybe ask him out, but if it falls flat, I look stupid.

 

Whelp, that's pretty much the way it goes. Maybe he's thinking the same thing. He wants to ask you out, but if it falls flat, he'll look stupid. So he's waiting for some mondo hints from you that the results will be anything but stupid.

 

On my second note, do not make the same mistake I almost did, do not go through the hassle of camping just for a like interest. Like last October, I had spent $300 on camping equipment, was prepared to ride 5 hours all the way upstate, spend 5 days hiking with the bears and the rain and the cold, all to spend time with a like interest. Who in the end didn't even like me! I'm just glad I could return all the stuff NQA

[renaissancewoman101]

DaBlade, I'm not going camping just because he is going to be there and I will get to hang out with him somewhat. I know a lot of people at the event and plan to hang out with a bunch of people.

 

Although I am SOOOO not looking forward to camping. I'd rather just go find a motel and stay there and just come during the day, but I'm not sure how people will perceive me if I do that.

 

I really don't want to camp

 

I do think he knows I like him. I do flirt with him and hang out with him, and stay after (along with that other girl), and chat with him, even after everybody has left after practice.

[DaBladeRoden]

You could put up a dummy in your tent when you snuck out alcatraz style

[renaissancewoman101]

You could put up a dummy in your tent when you snuck out alcatraz style

 

That's funny! I should do that.

[bulletproof]

I don't think you need to drop a major hint. If he's interested, he'll let you know. From what you've described of him in other threads and this one, he doesn't sound like he'd be too shy to make some sort of effort. So just continue to build a friendship, and consider finding other guys to date.

 

Regarding the camping... I don't think you should camp if you're really dreading it this much. Who cares what anyone thinks? You are there for the event- it shouldn't matter to anyone else how/where you want to spend the night. This could be a great opportunity to assert yourself and not worry what others think.

[renaissancewoman101]

Bulletproof, we do have a friendship right now, which I'm happy about. But, sometimes the snippets of attention he gives me, gives me the impression he's attracted to me. I can't tell. But then he's also mentioned out loud to people that women are never attracted to him, that he is shy about asking women out (I heard this while he was having a conversation with some of his friends - this was way back when I first started to know him).

 

I'm still not sure about the camping thing. I may give it a try for the first night and see how it is out there. If it doesn't turn out well, I'm off to look for a motel. I really freak out about camping in the wild with no flushable toilets or easily accessible showers. I am a wuss when it comes to that.