why cant i trust my gf, im going crazy

[whymeiask]

me and my gf met a year an a half ago online. we got to know eachother and i knew she was currently separated from her husband who lived in another state. we talked on the phone for 2 months an decided to meet. we started hangin out and everything was cool but i noticed she had old guys in her cell phone, i asked her about it and she said she just doesnt erase them to know if they call. the background on her that in h.s. she was very sexually active, cheating on her boyfriends and never being commited, she got married at a young age and cheated constantly on her husband, so she has a commitment problem, she gets drunk and screws just about anything (i heard her ex-husband say it many times).

now i have kinda been a jealous man but not really, so here we are months later into the relationship and we start getting serious, and im getting more jealous over her past, and very controlling, so we break up. two weeks later after we breakup she is "dating" (going out and partying with this "ex-friend" and sleeping with him) and i tried my best to not care, because i had actually left the state to goto school. a month and a half later i come back and see her for the first time, she is still seeing her "friend". about a week or two after i get back home we start seeing eachother, and i asked her if she would stop talking to him, and she said yeah. so we starting dating again, almost right where we picked up, and im thinking she has seen him maybe twice after a few months scince ive been back home, but i dont let it really bother me because i really didnt want to think that. so anyways we decided that i was ganna move to another state with her and her family, we were ganna start over, great, now 6 months here and im getting really jealous and controlling, why? i dont know....maybe because i saw emails of another one of her old "friends" saying oh how much i miss you and i get butterflies whenever i think about you and talking (not in so many words) that id like to get together or what-not. this happeend a few months ago and im finding it harder to trust her now that she started this new job where she wears business-type sexy clothes. i guess what im asking is she has had a long, sexual, past and its making me hard to trust her, and im becoming jealous and im controlling, how can i figure out if she is serious and willing to be commited to me? sorry if i rambled crazyness. but we are living together, and im being jealous, and i dont want to end this because she is pregnant now.....so im kinda screwed....i just dont see her being faithful to me anytime soon or at all, i need help.

[woopsydaisy]

Hi...sorry to hear about the situation your in.I dont blame you for having doubts especially after what happened with her husband...she seems to have quite a past.She is pregnent with your child and that is serious...your not screwed...but it is a serious situation to be in.No doubt you have tryed talking to her about how you feel...what was her reaction can she understand how you feel need you get positive feedback?.This is going to sound really boring but you need to have a serious talk with her and make her understand you want this relationship to work for both of you let alone for the baby.I carnt really see you and her together for long if things carry on like they have been doing...and thats sad.If i were you i would tell her that the relationship is going nowere if things dont change..that sounds nasty..but im only being honest.Ask her how she feels about the situation and try and come to some compromise...try not be so controlling even though its hard..it may be pushing her away even more.But make it clear things carnt go on like like this and you need to work together and tell her why and how you feel and ask her to work with you for the babys sake and for both of you.