lying in bed in pain

[firefox82]

I am so sad about being faded out...I just don't understand it...I think that's what hurts the most. I am lying in bed and I can't really move - I even called in sick to work today

[TLguy]

Ive been there. After my break up I spent most of the first two weeks in bed, tired, upset and lonely.

 

Best advice I can give, is talk to friends, stay active, and know that even though it doesnt feel like it things will get better.

 

Going to work would actually help keep your mind off things.

[Ac143]

Faded out? Were you dating someone & you guys broke up or what is the story behind this pain?

[firefox82]

We dated for 3 months. Not long I know, but I had a crush on him for a longtime and our connection was great (or so I thought). He left on business last Monday have only received 2 very short random emails. He has not called or initiated contact. His last email was on Thursday and I sent him one on Friday to no response. I left him a drunken voice mail/text on Sat night - his phone was off and appologized via text yesterday afternoon. I have not hear from him since his email on Thursday. We are normally in constant contact and I feel semi-stalkerish, so have decided the ball is in his court. He has never not responded......

[scorpio47]

Definitely been there... I think most of us that post and respond to threads here have been exactly where you are now. To some extent, I'm still going through it myself. It's particularly hard when you cant get any closure too - I had a relationship in my past that ended horribly, and there never was any real closure to it. In my experience, it takes longer to heal when there's no closure, BUT, the healing DOES come. Just be glad that you guys were only at the three month mark...in general, the longer the relationship, the harder the breakup

 

Hang in there...

[Ac143]

Dont let this man have this much hold over your life & emotions, lying in bed all day in pain because he is ignoring you after only dating for 3 months.

 

I know its hard but pick yourself up, wipe yourself off & live your life. There are good men out there that will treat you the way you deserve!

[Kraven]

My ex broke up with me on our 3 month as well. I didn't have much romantic feelings for her till we got together but from then on I fell in love with her hard and fast. It hurt like hell. She broke up with me via txt while I was at work.... so I just went home when I got it. So many sleepless nights. She would refuse to tell me anything face to face. Left me with so many questions that it was so hard to heal. She was my first serious relationship and if it hurts this much for just 3 months, I can't even begin to imagine the pain of those who were dumped after being together for a longer time. Tomorrow is exactly 2 months since we broke up and it still hurts. I'm healing and getting my mindset there. It just has to be done. I'm sure you will be able too.

[gidget1]

My boyfriend broke up with me the night before I started a whole new job which was really promising, and that morning I'd had about two hours sleep, I looked like a train wreck, felt sick, couldn't move or talk without crying - I called in & explained and said I was very vulnerable ... they fired me! It was awful!

I spent the whole day dwelling when I could have just gone to work, met new people, taken my mind off the guy.. but I didn't.

The BEST thing to do (from my lengthy experience) is keeping yourself BUSY BUSY BUSY.

Then the ex will fade away.

[DaveTrump]

Sorry to hear about this. You need to keep focused on your work - it will help you. You also need to keep busy out of work (no pity parties). Easier said than done but just keep active and do all the things that make you happy - not sad. You're free now and can do whatever you like! - use that. The grieving is natural and will take time but don't let it win, you need to take control and keep on top of things. Good luck and stay strong.