drewciouS281 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 So i was introduced to a girl that one of my close female friends wanted me to meet november of last year. at that time i was sorta dating someone so we just casually chatted over myspace cause this girl was doing acting work in cali. well afew weeks ago i ended things with the girl i was dating. I met the new girl finally sunday before last. we ended up clicking and hitting it off real well and hooked up. We then went to dinner the next day and she ended up spending the night. we didnt sleep together though cause i respect her. Then she spent the night again wednesday night. Its amazing how much alike we are and how much we have in common. Ive never clicked this well with someone. She has all the characteristics in a woman i want. shes gorgeous, athletic, fun and outgoing, affectionate, very sexual, adrenaline junky like me and has high goals and ambitions for herself! then she spent the night again friday night and we went snowboardin saturday then superbowl yesterday. she spent the night again last night and we finally had sex! it was awesome and then she started telling me how she wanted to take a chance and make it official cause she can already see herself falling for me. I told her i feel the same. Now my question, have any of you experianced anything like this and what did you do? Her and i agreed its freaky how much we click but we get each other so well when other people dont. I dont want it to be ruined and want it to stay alive for a long time. what things should i do to avoid a downhill slope??? Thanks guys!
metrogirl Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Sounds like she is moving too fast....You don't want to be sucked into something that could blow up later. I think you need a little more time to get to know her, get to really know her. You already know the basics but it takes time to see the real person inside. I'm not saying these whirlwind things can't last.....Just get to know her better before making any kind of commitment in terms of being 'official'.
EQD Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 thats exactly how it was with me and my SO. go with it! yayy!
Scorpion Fury Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Sounds like she is moving too fast....You don't want to be sucked into something that could blow up later. I think you need a little more time to get to know her, get to really know her. You already know the basics but it takes time to see the real person inside. I'm not saying these whirlwind things can't last.....Just get to know her better before making any kind of commitment in terms of being 'official'. I agree. Roll with it, but try to slow it down some.
lostandhurt Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 This is great news that you two have met. You know about the honeymoon phase so I don't need to tell you about that. I have seen this in others. Sometimes it is Love goggles and sometimes it is the exitement in finding someone you get and that gets you. Either way this phase will not last forever and you know that. If either of you have some great expectation that your relationship will stay at this pace for a very long time anything less than what you have now will seem like a let down. Talk to her and if you want to be exclusive to see where this thing is going then do that and let her know. If you both feel comfortable that neither of you are possibly causually dating then it will certianly take some pressure off the situation. Once again I am very happy you have found each other and I hope it works out beautifully. lost
EQD Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 not all relationships follow the same pace. if the attraction is genuine it will work, if it is fake then it will fall through.
BeStrongBeHappy Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 It sounds very promising based on who you think she is, and time will tell whether she's as great as you think. Just don't assume she's perfect or not perfect... have fun getting to know her and keep an open mind as to whether it will work out or not... no way to know at this juncture.
Crazyaboutdogs Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Sounds like the "honeymoon hormones" talking...by the way, sleeping together but not having sex is still sleeping together...it is still intimate for someone you have known for only 5 minutes. Basically you have known her for, what, less than two weeks. It doesn't matter that you had x dates in two weeks...that's the "let's get it on I want a partner in my bed" hormones talking..not anything based on real love. You two can choose to make it official...and then once you actually get to know each other properly outside the bedroom you might find it was a bit too premature becoming a couple. There is more to making a relationship work than lust and the relief of meeting someone who you think "gets you". People always superficially "get" another person in the lustful days of a relationship...it is only when the excitement simmers down does a person really see if the other one actually does indeed "get" them.
Sweet Venus Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 I heard a great quote once Drew: No matter HOW beautiful or wonderful you may think a woman is..somewhere in the world some guy is sick of her shizznet...lmao
Mavh25 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 lmao@ sweet venus I think its greattttttt Drew, I think if its gonna last it will, if its gonna go downhill it will. You should'nt even be thinking of that, just go with it while its good and enjoy eachother, its more likely to last that way.
bmwm3 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 I heard a great quote once Drew: No matter HOW beautiful or wonderful you may think a woman is..somewhere in the world some guy is sick of her shizznet...lmao i heard the same thing... but what i heard was some guy is sick of having sex with her...
drewciouS281 Posted February 2, 2009 Author Posted February 2, 2009 yeah i hear ya. honeymoon phase! i just really dont want it to fizzle that much and i dont think it will cause we have alot in common. In many ways she is like a mirror female version of me! I just wanna mke sure it stays going good!
kaoticbaby Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 I heard a great quote once Drew: No matter HOW beautiful or wonderful you may think a woman is..somewhere in the world some guy is sick of her shizznet...lmao or she was just sick of theirs... drew, just go for it. i agree that you might want to cut back on the sleepovers just a little so that you don't overdo it (the spark in my last relationship died because we were seeing eachother wayy too much), but otherwise, it seems like everything is great. no need to be worried about the "what ifs" like everyone else is saying, if you enjoy it now that is all that matters. whatever is in store for the future will happen when it happens.
Crazyaboutdogs Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 yeah i hear ya. honeymoon phase! i just really dont want it to fizzle that much and i dont think it will cause we have alot in common. In many ways she is like a mirror female version of me! I just wanna mke sure it stays going good! Just remember that it is not always a good idea to have the mirror image of yourself otherwise you may as well clone yourself. Sometimes people who are too much alike get bored of each other because there is nobody to challenge them into thinking and doing things in a different way. I am not saying that complete opposites work...those do not necessarily make stable long-term relationships...but when someone is your mirror image, you are basically falling for yourself....like that myth about Narcissus who falls in love with his reflection in the water. So right now you are thrilled that you met someone exactly like you...but make sure there are enough differences so that you don't get bored once things settle down.
PsychGirly Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 I think you should definitely go with the flow. Just make sure you don't set yourself up to get hurt/disappointed. Sometimes when you meet someone so similar to you, you tend to overlook their flaws. Enjoy it for now, but don't make it too official. Give it some time before you get too attached.
drewciouS281 Posted February 2, 2009 Author Posted February 2, 2009 i hear all of ya. i dont wanna keep my guard up too high cause i know she is letting hers down for me. Thats why the title is too good to be true cause it is. This girl is perfect to me in every way. we have alot in common but she isnt EXACTLY like me. Im the one that does most of the entertaining in the relationship cause ive experianced alot in life and she is always intrigued by my stories.
Crazyaboutdogs Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Okay, one of the things we always caution women about is the men who come on too strong at the beginning of a relationship..the ones who woo the women with flowers, fluff words, intense talks about how they feel, lots of wooing words and actions that are intense and make the woman feel like she has never met a man that attentive towards her...he basically sweeps her off her feet telling her things she always wanted to hear...he is quick to make the relationship exclusive...then, once he has her, the mask comes off and he is no longer this amazing, attentive, wonderful being...quite the opposite. So if we are quick to warn women about the dangers of it being "too good to be true" I think it is only fair to warn men: 1) She is quick to share a bed with you 2) The relationship is fast and furious and intense...no breathing room...just two weeks of constantly seeing each other and spending the night together 3) She is hanging on every word you say so that you feel so important (that is akin to the male strategy of sweeping the woman off her feet) 4) She seems to like everything you like (is that real or is that part of the wooing flattery) 5) She is already encouraging you to make this official when you have only known her two weeks. While you shouldn't get paranoid, you also should be wise and cautious. Don't rush into things. I would suggest slowing this down and making sure she really is what she is portraying herself to be...only time will allow you to see that.
JeckyllNHyde Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 not all relationships follow the same pace. if the attraction is genuine it will work, if it is fake then it will fall through. I agree with this. I still think playing it "safer" if you want it to last is a good way to go, specially if you really really like this girl already. I mean think about it logically. After a while your flaws... both your flaws will begin to show. You don't want to RUSH into this and then later be completely disappointed. I say take it slow. Maybe wait a month to make it official. See if you guys can at least date exclusively for a month and if it still continues going well. Get to know each other in different situations and take it from there.
Pegasus Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 yeah i hear ya. honeymoon phase! i just really dont want it to fizzle that much and i dont think it will cause we have alot in common. In many ways she is like a mirror female version of me! I just wanna mke sure it stays going good! Been there myself.....best 2 months of my life ever. Enjoy it maximally and don't be bothered by negative comments on here. Even if it does not last is worth much
drewciouS281 Posted February 3, 2009 Author Posted February 3, 2009 Been there myself.....best 2 months of my life ever. Enjoy it maximally and don't be bothered by negative comments on here. Even if it does not last is worth much did it last for you though? So far im just enjoying it and not worrying about the end result. Just focusing on the now and where it can go. Ive been seen her pretty often so im going to take a break from her tonight.
Pegasus Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 did it last for you though? So far im just enjoying it and not worrying about the end result. Just focusing on the now and where it can go. Ive been seen her pretty often so im going to take a break from her tonight. It lasted 2 months but I am not sure that now, a year after I am over it. It's a bliss ;-).
tinydancer81 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 Dont focus on any negative stuff, just enjoy it and go with the flow. Dont put her on a pedestal though as you may be disappointed. But YAY for you and good luck!
ghost69 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 thats exactly how it was with me and my SO. go with it! yayy! was? i hear all of ya. i dont wanna keep my guard up too high cause i know she is letting hers down for me. Thats why the title is too good to be true cause it is. This girl is perfect to me in every way. we have alot in common but she isnt EXACTLY like me. Im the one that does most of the entertaining in the relationship cause ive experianced alot in life and she is always intrigued by my stories. a lot of your threads seem to start out this way. some unbelievable girl in your life again. lust is always fun in the beginning man. don't get carried away.
cutiepie07 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 Just go with the flow. Everything is good in the beginning, there's no rush on things. It seems like you are both into each other so just go with it. Don't have too high expectations, otherwise you may just end up disappointed. Just enjoy it for now and see what happens. Yay!
JeckyllNHyde Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 Me and my bf kind of slept together soon after we kissed. But we'd known each other a long time before and went on quiet a few friend(ly) dates (surprisingly no kissing etc). I was so worried. Things seemed "too good to be true" and from past expriences, when it seems to good to be true.. IT IS! I kind of let him know my feelings and he told me something I'll never forget "it's good and it's true." More then a year later.. so far so good.. We have our small disagreements but overall it's bliss. The good times make up for the "bad" so easily. JUst believe in what you guys feel and also, know what you want with each other. If you're both iffy about what you want, then things may not go so well. But if you both WANT to make this relationship work, then your half way there. The only other factors are if you can both continue to compromise, have fun, respect each other, etc
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