My Head Exploding

[chaosa]

I guess I just need to vent. My head feels like it is about to explode because I can't stop worrying about everyone around me. I'm "supposed" to be working on MY healing and MY emotions and MY mental health, but I feel like everyone around me is expecting something from me and I just can't say "go away, and leave me alone."

 

This has been my problem for as long as I can remember and I'm just at a loss. I can't even think about my emotional state when I am worried about everyone else. I have been keeping myself so busy that I fall into bed at night due to exhaustion just so my mind will shut off by itself. It's not healthy, but I don't know what to do.

 

Thanks for reading.

[Salicia]

I guess I just need to vent. My head feels like it is about to explode because I can't stop worrying about everyone around me. I'm "supposed" to be working on MY healing and MY emotions and MY mental health, but I feel like everyone around me is expecting something from me and I just can't say "go away, and leave me alone."

 

This has been my problem for as long as I can remember and I'm just at a loss. I can't even think about my emotional state when I am worried about everyone else. I have been keeping myself so busy that I fall into bed at night due to exhaustion just so my mind will shut off by itself. It's not healthy, but I don't know what to do.

 

Thanks for reading.

 

This is something that I feel like sometimes. I feel like everyone comes to me for every problem or question that they have, not considering my problems and my needs or how I feel at the time. I also don't like shooing people away but sometimes there are certain times and days where time just needs to stop for me. The best thing that I do when I feel bombarded with people and obligations, I take some time out from the world. I just isolate myself and call it "me" time. Whatever time you need, take because having a break seems to be rarer to have at this time and age.

[waveseer]

I have to turn everyone (except my kids) away sometimes and focus on putting myself and my life in order.

[Gracelove]

Maybe you should see a therapist. It sounds like the issue is anxiety. A long, long time ago I used to have the same problem.

 

The only thing is that it was so long ago I don't rememeber what I did to change it.

 

Do you journal? That can help. If you put all of those thoughts and worries on paper, it can help to calm you.

 

When you are worried about everyone else, are you worried about pleasing them?

 

Trying to "people please" can cause TONS of anxiety. I used to be that way.

 

Just remember there is no need for you to try to please anyone. Just be yourself, and treat people with kindness. That's all you have to do. You'll never be able to please everyone anyway.

 

I think once you learn to appreciate yourself, people pleasing falls off the radar.

 

Once you are out of that whole "people pleasing" mode, you'll feel a million times better. It'll be just like a weight is lifted off of you.

 

I would suggest seeing a therapist, they can help you to discover your self worth. place.

[chaosa]

 

 

That is my original post on this website. I do journal, and it helps, but it doesn't stop what happens on the outside. I am in therapy, it's helping, but I still get these bad days. I have therapy once every two weeks, maybe I should go more.