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[maverick]

I'm new to this forum and I was just wondering about dinner topics. I have gotten to know this person very well over the last few weeks. I am wondering if you have any advice as to what types of topics i should bring up at dinner to pro-long the conversation. Thanks!

 

Maverick

[idontakre6203]

Alright, well I don't have the best ideas, they may not even be good, but atleast I am trying, right?!?!?!?!?!

 

You can talk about the things you or she enjoy doing often. Ask her questions like: What sports do you like? Favorite pets? Food (probably what she's eating?) what is your dream future? How are things going with school? What's new?

 

yeah yeah, i know, they are simple, kindergarden-like questions, but anything works, right? I think any topic during dinner is fine, as long as it is appropriate to the people there, her religion, the setting, and nothing gross, ha!

 

I know it isn't much help but I wanted you to just get a reply, best of luck!

[secretguy1607306448]

My advice is to focus on whatever he/she is willing to talk about-- even if it bores you a little. Try to build on whatever he/she says, ask questions, nod, smile, tell brief stories that connect to the conversations.

 

example 1: If you ask him/her about her family and he/she says he/she is close to her brother, ask him/her a question about the brother. Ask what they do together, why he/she likes him so much, etc. Then ask about another aspect of her family rather than shift the topic totally.

 

In other words, whenever you hit a topic he/she *is* comfortable with...stick with it for a little while. Stick in some small jokes, ask more in-depth questions that relate to the topic. Also, don't dwell on yourself, but wen you have a way of connecting to your own life, do it. Say, "I am kind of the same way, because..."

 

Also, you might try a little pop-psychology. As long as you are saying what the guy/girl wants to hear, he/she will probably love to hear you analyze his/her situations.

 

example 2: He/she says, "I need to find myself. I'm thinking of hitchhiking accross the country in the back of a pickup truck." Then you say, "Oh, what a wonderful experience that would be. You know, that's a healthy way to explore your life. It would allow you to experience new things without being held back by people and things in your life." (Now you know darned well he/she's probably not going to actually hitchhike accross the country, but entertain his/her thoughts anyway.)

 

Hope this helps. Thanks.)