Zka0954 Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 Ok this is a long story so please bear with me ........I met her last year in school. We became friends but not close friends or anything and at that time i wasnt interested in getting into any relationships. She had a b/f anyway but im just saying at that time i wasnt puruing anyone. Well as the year went on she would follow me in the hallways and into class sometimes. Her relationship with her b/f was apparently disfunctional as they didnt talk for months on end. Some girls told me i should pursue her since it seemed that she liked me. I said no since she still had a b/f named brendan and i didnt yet like her like that. Well the end of the year comes and it turns out that was her first and last year at our schoolm b4 she went back to homeschooloing. I asked for her number and she didnt yet have a cell so she gave me her house. I sttempted to call a couple times over the summer but she was always too busy to hang. I kinda forgot about her until the begning of the next school year. I meet her at our homecoming football game. Let me say first and foremost she is a very beatiful girl and many guys would love to go out with her. Turns out she got even more beatiful over the summer. Turns out she broke up with her old b/f and was goin out with a new one named ty. She had also gotten a cell so i got her number so we could txt and talk more. After that i txtd her every now and then and we got to know each other better. Well eventually the biggest highschool football game came around and we txtd b4 and she wanted to know if i was going i told her yes and she wanted to hang out so we did. It was at that game that i decided i was going to pursue her. We talked and flirted at the game. Turns out she broke up with her last b/f just recently. Well at the game she trusted me enough to tell me about this guy that she was about to deny. She denied him cuz he was too cocky of a guy for her. Well after that game we started txtn non-stop for about 2 weeks and really got to know each other. I decided to ask her out on a date and she said yes. Well it went well we went to the mall and saw a movie. Afterwards i asked her if she wanted to be in a relationship. She said exactly this "im not rejecting you but i cant say yes right now cuz of my ex. Im just really confused about guys right now." I told i understood and that she should consider my offer. Well time went on and we still talked like every second of every day. Well about 1 week b4 the last game of the season we were talking and i asked her wut happened to make her so frustrated with her 2nd ex. She told me it was long and confusing. Well i gave her some really good advice that was really deep. And i also told her that i was falling in love with her. She said she didnt know wut to say and i said it was alright and to just consider this and id give her sum time to think about it. She thanked me for the really good advice and told me she appreciated it. Well at the last game of the season she wanted me to hang with her really bad and of course i did. After that i ased her if she was finished considering and she said "Im really confused right now and i think we should be really great friends and see what the future holds since im not ready to be in a relationship right now". I told i understood and would respect her decision and i did. But it still seemed she wanted to be in a relationship later. So i still taled to her all the time then over christmas break i surprised her with a heart necklace and a book of poems i wrote. They confused my love to her and all the reasons i loved her among other things. I told her i loved her not just for her beatiful looks but for everything about her. She told me she didnt know wut to say again and that guys were confusing her. I asked wut about guys were confusing her and she told me that she went out with her first b/f brendan for 5 months but she broke up with him cuz she thought he was cheating on her. Well she went out with ty and she got really close and they even talked about doing "things" together. Eventually for unknown reasons he stopped talking to people including her and was an ass to her and really hurt her so they broe up. Back to brendan she was hangin with him as friends and he had gotten a new g/f. Well apparently he forced her into kissing him which really hurt me since i just confessed my love to her. She said that made every feeling she had for him come back out and she felt like * * * * for hiimm cheating on his g/f which is y they broke up in the first place. Plus she still had feelings for ty who apparently was talking to her like he was about to ask for her back but then got a new g/f which hurt her even further. And her parents dont let her date so this was all behind there backs. Well she said she liked me but if we got in a relationship she wouldnt be able to be in it 100% and she didnt want to be hurt or hurt me. but she did say that she didnt kno wut the future may hold and that we may get together later leading me on to wait again. So i told her id wait and she said ok. Well still talked to her and gave her advice and was an all around amazing guy to her. I figured id be the best guy possible to show her a diffrent side of guys. Well she told once after that, that she advised me not to wait because she couldnt promice anything but it still wasnt a definant no. She told me that she was confused about what she wanted in life and i told her we could find out together. She really liked that bust had to go and asked me to txt her later. I kept getting more attatched to her and i was sure she would eventually say yes after all that i did for her. It was an emotional rollercoaster for me since i kept getting deppresed about the situation and her in-ability to say yes. My friends even talked to her, and tried to pressure her to say yes. She told them that she wanted to date me but didnt want to lie to her parents anymore. Well she did for her old b/f and i want her to do it for me to. The other day, following the advice of sum chick friends, i asked wut was honestly still holding her back from saying yes and that "im confused about life" isnt an answer just a prob. we could work out together. She told me that she reliazes that shes not ready to be in a relationship and that she wasnt planning on dating for a year! A year starting this april! I got really mad at her for leading me on for so long. I was an amazing guy to her. I was like an angel and did everything for her. She still says she wants to just be friends right now. But she says she says she understands y im mad at her and doent blame me. She told me that she didnt see wut i liked in her. And i told wut i saw and told her that i can help her bring out another side of her and help her threw these times if she would just let me be in a relationship. She told me that she just cant right now. So now i feel hurt and used. I feel if this was the end conclusion she ended up coing to that she should have stopped me earlier. Stopped me from getting so attatched. I feel like all the emotions ive felt the past 4 months have been a waste. I agreed to be her friend cuz i dont like losing friends even after wut she did to me. But i really want to be with her. Like id give anything to be with her. And i told her that. She says that guys distracted her from dance and that made her behind. But i promised i wouldnt stop her from dance. But thanx to the great friends i have i thought i got over and we went to the mall so we could find sum girls for me to find and guess who was there!!! Her!!! So that ruined that and i ended up hanging out with her which even makes it harder. And i even stood up for her and fought sum a-holes who were rudely hitting on her and took a blow to the face. Im hoping that she'll come to her senses and say yes to me b4 the year and a half thing ends but idk. Should i wait for sumthing like that to happen? My friends tell me to move on but i dont want to. I love everything about her and could see us getting married. It would be too hard for me to wait a whole year and a half for her. it would be too painful. Im srry for the really long post but please help!!!!!!!!
LE DHUY NHUT Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 The only thing to do is start pulling away from her.You are too available.You have to respect her wishes but you also have to take care of your own needs.
Zka0954 Posted February 3, 2009 Author Posted February 3, 2009 Yea thats what im trying......thnx to my good friends it hasnt been too hard. but thnx for attemptingto help with that really long story lol. Even if you didnt read the whole thing.
LE DHUY NHUT Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 I read it all....and the only thing to do is to withdraw your affection and attention and give it to someone who deserves it.....
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