katies here Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 Since the invention of facebook and myspace, I think my break ups have taken an even uglier turn (see my previous post yesterday about the break up). No matter what I do, I can not avoid looking at his page. There hasn't been much action on his page since we broke up 10 days ago, but there were pictures posted by a gal friend of his (who I never liked in the first place). He was out with his friends and looked completely drunk and I recently found out through mutual friends he was attempting to drink me away. Why break up with me in the first place!? I want to delete the whole darn thing altogether, but I went to college out of state and my best friends are all spread out accross the country. I love keeping up with their wedding planning and babies and know I won't be able to find the strength to delete it, but at the same time I am TERRIFIED that I will look at his page one day soon and see something some new girl has written.. or worse, pictures of a new relationship. I am trying soooooo hard to keep up with the N/C thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
penelope13 Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 all you have to do is defriend your ex, so you can still use FB for your friends, but you won't have the chance to look at his page anymore Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sn0man Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 That's the thing about Facebook - I for one never add any SO to my friends list, there's just no privacy in that. I don't think there's anything you can really do - though if he blocks you then you won't be able to visit his page. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babysunshine Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 I'm not friends with my ex on FB (He got it after he broke up with me), but through mutual friends I am still able to see his wall posts and even pictures. It's horrible!!!! The only solution I can think of is to block him, but since you said his page is public than the willpower is going to have to come from you! Trust me, if it seems bad now, think about when he actually does get a new fling or girlfriend and you go to his page and see pictures of them, and comments from her!!!! So horrible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeckyllNHyde Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 Oh I know what you mean. ( I wish there was some way of blocking yourself from visiting certain websites lol. Maybe there is? I still go on myspace occasionally when I'm bored and always always stumble onto exes profiles which I'll take a look at if bored. Luckily I'm over them, way over them, but somehow I think it would be a more perfect world if I had no access to knowing what they are upto AT ALL or who their new gf is. They just always do and always will seem way happier with the new person. It's all a front though. I mean obviously people will put pics up of them self having fun and smiling. Preferably with the opposite sex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gee Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 BLOCK!!!!! gee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaoticbaby Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 this is what you do, and what i did. you delete him from your friends, and you block him. thereforee even if he comments on somebody else's page you won't be able to see it (and he can't see you.) ta-da. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Samedy Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 this is what you do, and what i did. you delete him from your friends, and you block him. thereforee even if he comments on somebody else's page you won't be able to see it (and he can't see you.) ta-da. What sucks about blocking someone is they can pretty much tell (or take a pretty good guess) when you block them. Especially if it's an ex. Facebook is the ultimate test when trying to get over someone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaoticbaby Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 What sucks about blocking someone is they can pretty much tell (or take a pretty good guess) when you block them. Especially if it's an ex. Facebook is the ultimate test when trying to get over someone. not really, unless they ask people. and even if they could , who cares? they're your ex. i still have my ex blocked on aim. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seymore Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 Either remove him from your friends, or deactivate your account. I never went on Facebook except to send my ex cutesy stuff while we were together. My real friends that I had on my list - I talked to them regularly anyway, so I notified them I would no longer be on Facebook and deactivated my account. It was tough - I put my arm in front of my face so I wouldn't see any updates on her - all I saw was the options panel. It felt good after, though. After one of our previous breakups, I removed her from my friends list. She started harassing me, saying I was a child because I couldn't stay friends with her. So this time, I decided to give her less of a chance to complain and removed EVERYONE from my friends list by deactivating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FloatingAnchor Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 Don't deactivate your account. You should still be able to enjoy keeping up with other friends and whatnot. If you defriend him and you are in his same network, you may still be able to see his page depending on his security settings. Just block him. You won't be able to see his page and you won't see his comments on mutual friends' pages, like someone said. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
top bloke Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 Do what I did..close the f ing thing. I can now see its a big timewasting exercise which can quickly snowball into the sabotage of relationships and being followed by people who we left in the past for a reason. They are bad news.. I thought it would be good to keep in contact with my car racing buddies but my wife hit the roof.. Myspace ..facebook...no thanks.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
denise_14 Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 whew! now i realize the benefits of not having any social networking site at all! yeah, it seems kinda weird, like i'm the only person in the planet who doesn't have a friendster, multiply, nor facebook account. but i'm enjoying the privacy and mystery. well, i know it could get really tempting. sometimes i ask my friends to check out the pages of my ex's and other people i'm interested with, and when you find out about them that's not favorable on your end, it really sucks. i'd agree with everyone that probably the best solution is to block your ex. although if i were you, i would just rely on my willpower to just disregard anything related to him,without having him blocked, because if you block him, it might give the impression that you're being bitter, or that you're still affected. but anyways, who cares what they think about?!! help yourself. do what you feel is best for you. good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PJPaul Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 Personally I don't find it hard to avoid my ex's page. I just delete her as a friend and delete all comments/wall post and picture comments. Out of sight out of mind! I have been told that I have alot of self control though. But try it. If its harder to get to them you wont got through all the trouble of finding his/her page Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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