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Ok, this is going to be a long one. A little background to start: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months. I am 30, he is 28.


A couple weeks ago my boyfriends brother Joe moved back here after serving two tours with his girlfriend of 5 years. The brothers are very close...almost like twins. My boyfriend made it clear that we would be spending a lot of time with Joe and his girlfriend Sam. The night they got back into town, the brothers had their night so me and Sam went out and hung out. When we got back to the house, the boys were pasted out, and she and I stayed up and talked. She had mentioned something about her sister Kathy and my boyfriend sleeping in the same bed. And then mentioned something about my boyfriend taking Kathy out when they were here, and Kathy taking my boyfriend out when he went to visit out in Cali. I just got a bad feeling. (This was all before he and I met) So they next day, after her bringing it up again I asked her about it. She then denied she ever said they slept in the same bed. But there was a lot of flirting going on. And that Kathy was upset that he never made a move because she really liked him.


So a couple days later I asked my boyfriend "Tell me about you and Kathy" and he said there was nothing to tell. They hung out, and he didn't deny there was flirting. But nothing happened. And I had nothing to worry about.


I trust him. And I know he is with me now. We have been through a lot in the six months we have been dating, and we have pulled through when I wasn't sure we would.


We spent this whole last weekend with Joe and Sam. And she continued to bring up Kathy and my boyfriend. Saying stuff like "Didn't you take Kathy to so and so place?" And Kathy is coming in town in March. She wants to come in next month too, but she has changed her mind. You should call her and get her to come. And then she would be telling a story and be like "Oh but you were out with Kathy when this happened"


Why would she pull that? Just to get under my skin? I, honestly think she doesn't like me. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and have become very close with his large family. Her boyfriend, Joe, likes me a lot and shows it by making fun of me..which is fine, and we have a good time with it, but he gives me a lot of attention in doing that. Their mother adores me. And the rest of the family really likes me as well.


She is VERY VERY VERY needy in her relationship. It is annoying. And not just to me. She whines about EVERYTHING. (she is 31) She is also a talker. And likes to tell the family things that family doesn't need to know. Their family is a bunch of talkers and knows everyones drama/


So I told my boyfriend that I know he wants me to like her but I just don't. And he said, I don't blame you if you don't, but I want you to get along with her. I told him he would have to say something to her about Kathy. So make it clear that there is no need to bring up these things. But he is super shy, and I know he wont. So I said "You say something or I will, and you are a lot nicer than I am"


I really don't know what to do and how to make it stop. Because as much as I know my boyfriend loves me and I know he is with ME. It does get under my skin. And it is just going to be hell when she is in town. And who knows what she will say to his family about me.


I am just stuck. Do I just shut my mouth and not say anything or do I nip it in the bud now?

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This chick sounds like an attention seeking shyte disturber, I wouldn't worry about it, just know that she is doing this to get under your skin.

I hate people like that, and regardless of the scenario, nobody wants to hear stories about their SO with someone else, it's just not right, you don't wanna picture that in your mind.

I'm sure this girl knows it to, thats why she brings up the whole..."kathy coming into town in march" just to get you worried, telling stories of the past to build up the suspense for drama in the future.

It's a stupid mind game this girl shouldn't be playing, but the most important thing is, that you trust the man your with, no matter what.


Try to ignore this girl, if she keeps bringing it up, I wouldn't put up with it, don't be shy like your BF to say, give it a rest, theres nothing wrong with that, you have every right to speak up and put this chick in her place, because it's obvious shes playing games.

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