S agapo Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 How do you stop those feelings you felt and had for someone else that meant when they are no longer with you?. I feel like an empty shell now. Im finding it very hard to describe it in words what I feel in my heart and soul. I feel, I have lost interest in allowing myself to get to know someone new, I feel very un- interested and empty… very empty. Scared almost. Even more shy I haven’t been on a date for 2 years nearly. I’m looking but my heart is not with me anymore. I really want to feel what I felt for me my ex so deeply. The excitement; that wonderful warm feeling that felt so right – that he came into my life. And this little contact I’ve had with him these past couple of weeks have really made me feel how much I really did like him. I can’t even bring myself to say the ‘L’ word anymore. And also how much he hurt me, thats kinda washed away my trust in myself and others... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeagain Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 it sounds like you have been through an emotional ringer. i think that sometimes we put up defense mechanisms (like not wanting to date after being hurt) so that we can fully give ourselves time to heal. you're not broken, when your heart is ready to open up to someone new, it will find a way. in the mean time, i'm sorry you are feeling so bad. it's so hard to keep going when you feel so shattered, i know. you're processing your grief and you're searching for whatever answers you have so that you can start over - those are both good signs. *hugs* keep reading and posting, you will move beyond this. it will stop hurting when you're ready to go on. (i believe that -- it's what i tell myself every day.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 I know how you feel. What I do is focus on my work and other things going on in my life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
S agapo Posted January 26, 2009 Author Share Posted January 26, 2009 I'm feeling - what if that 'feeling' just happened just for the one time. This is how I feel, like i am never going to get that feeling again. But I really do feel like a empty shell. I just get on with my day, find things to do.. but inside I feel different all b'cos I trusted my heart and trusted someone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
top bloke Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 life continues on around us. I know pain can make us stop moving forward sometimes but its no excuse to stop living. I think the most important thing to do is get back into life...get a hobby makes some new friends.... We are here to not only be alive but to live. These experiences give us more perspective on the matter. We are wiser for it. Time to get back into living i think . Also like the username ...but its an old song that one. Got to love Notis Sfakianakis... Sagapo na ise kala ...theos mazi soo filee K? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
top bloke Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 I'm feeling - what if that 'feeling' just happened just for the one time. This is how I feel, like i am never going to get that feeling again. But I really do feel like a empty shell. I just get on with my day, find things to do.. but inside I feel different all b'cos I trusted my heart and trusted someone else. So did i once but you know what?17 years of marriage to someone much nicer And two lovely kids I am happy as a clown and love my wife. Each time she steps in the room all my problems disappear and she is the sexiest beast on earth to me. Now ask me if I even think of that old loser anymore? You deserve to find some good too. Dont miss out because of the one who wasnt right for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thorpe Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 I think we can all empathize with you as we've all been there. Now is the time for family and friends and trying some new things. It'll be tough at work as you probably can't concentrate on anything, but just keep putting one foot in front of the other and things will get easier. What was the contact you had with your ex? and were you feeling better before that? Many people take a long time to find the interest and courage to open themselves up again. Some will jump right back into a relationship some will be happier staying single. If you find yourself dwelling on your ex just shout "STOP" to yourself. I found myself really missing my ex over Christmas, but I'm feeling better now and the need to email her is going away. Like you, I'm definitely not interested in dating anyone, but who knows what you'll meet someone that will make you forget your ex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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