nurse1986 Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 I could be looking into this too far, but my cousin emailed me back...after not picking up the phone or answering her door for me and to me, it wasn't a very nice email. A little backstory, I have been trying to get a hold of her. First just to talk, but I felt like she was ignoring me for various reasons (you can dip into my thread history to find out details)....dadadadee, to make a long story short, I gave up trying to get a hold of her for a couple of days. Then I realized that she still had a book checked out in my name. (I racked up late fees, when she could have returned it around the corner from her house...but that's another issue...not a big deal)... I emailed her a couple days ago and she emailed me back...Here are the emails. What do you pick up, if anything? I feel like she's being short and b*tchy towards me.... ME: Haven't talked to you in awhile. I've been trying to get a hold of you. Can u give me a favor and drop the GED book off at the library for me?? It's right around the corner, so PLEASE do that for me.. I would really appreciate it. Tx... HER: Hi nice to talk to you too i will see if Steph will do it since shes always there on the regular ,well... loVE YA I know her and her demeanor. I could tell you exactly how she would have said this and it is with an attitude. I know her.... Steph is her sister. She knows that I do not talk to her nor would I trust her with my belongings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chaosa Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 If you have been IMing/emailing for a long time you tend to pick up on things. The ?? you used could be interpreted as you yelling at her. I hate it when people do that, the same with !! My boss does that and I just want to slap her sometimes. That may have made her a bit upset when she saw that. I dunno, maybe not, but I would have been. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nurse1986 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Share Posted January 26, 2009 If you have been IMing/emailing for a long time you tend to pick up on things. The ?? you used could be interpreted as you yelling at her. I hate it when people do that, the same with !! My boss does that and I just want to slap her sometimes. That may have made her a bit upset when she saw that. I dunno, maybe not, but I would have been. I didn't do it on purpose. It doesn't mean anything, but I know what you mean. I do ?? all the time...It doesn't mean anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chaosa Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 It may not mean anything to you, but we all interpret things differently. I'm just telling you how I would've interpreted it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nurse1986 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Share Posted January 26, 2009 I think I was a little irritated though when emailing her. She has been ignoring me and for no reason. I didn't do anything to her to treating me like garbage. That's why I choose not to talk to her anymore. She is kind of mean to me, and I will not put up with it anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ac143 Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 I didn't get a "b*tchy" vibe from her email. Seems short & simple...she even say love ya Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nurse1986 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Share Posted January 26, 2009 I've been nervous about calling her, but I want to so bad to ask her why she hasn't been calling me and what is going on? I don't want to seem like the weak one though. I just don't know what to say to her? If I call, I know I will say something mean because I know why she hasn't been calling me and the reason just isn't right. She kind of did me wrong...& I'm so tired of being the one who always gets thrown under the bus. I have been a great friend and family member. At times I can repeat myself and push issues, but I have only done them for her own good. She's a little younger then me (20) and I've been telling her to get her act together and there has been so many other things....I don't even want to get into them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nurse1986 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Share Posted January 26, 2009 I didn't get a "b*tchy" vibe from her email. Seems short & simple...she even say love ya I know her. She doesn't say....LOVE YA....like that...it sounds attitudy to me... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ac143 Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 I know her. She doesn't say....LOVE YA....like that...it sounds attitudy to me... Ahhh ok..yeah I have no idea how she writes/talks etc..So what looks to me like a regular, nice email looks like an attitudy one to you lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nurse1986 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Share Posted January 26, 2009 Like the GED book for example. I checked a GED book out for her and wanted to help her study to get her GED, but she never wanted to study. Fast forward to almost 5 weeks later and she still says that she hasn't looked at the book. She wasted 5 weeks of her life..& she doesn't have a job, or do anything else. She could have her GED by now. not the point but its not like i dont care about her Sigh** i give up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nurse1986 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Share Posted January 26, 2009 Ahhh ok..yeah I have no idea how she writes/talks etc..So what looks to me like a regular, nice email looks like an attitudy one to you lol. & if you read how she wrote "nice to talk to you too" I was trying to get a hold of her, but she was never around or didn't pick up the phone...didn't even try to call me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chaosa Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 Like the GED book for example. I checked a GED book out for her and wanted to help her study to get her GED, but she never wanted to study. Fast forward to almost 5 weeks later and she still says that she hasn't looked at the book. She wasted 5 weeks of her life..& she doesn't have a job, or do anything else. She could have her GED by now. Sigh** i give up. Maybe you should. I understand you're wanting to help her, but she's an adult and if she wants to keep screwing up her life, that's her deal. Don't beat yourself up for something you have no control over. She may be resenting you a bit for you trying to get her to do something she doesn't want to do. I would back off a bit and let her come to you when she needs you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nurse1986 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Share Posted January 26, 2009 I'm so hurt right now. We aren't as close as we were a year ago. She acts like I don't exist anymore. Maybe we've grown apart? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nurse1986 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Share Posted January 26, 2009 Maybe you should. I understand you're wanting to help her, but she's an adult and if she wants to keep screwing up her life, that's her deal. Don't beat yourself up for something you have no control over. She may be resenting you a bit for you trying to get her to do something she doesn't want to do. I would back off a bit and let her come to you when she needs you. and that's the thing. Why can't she call me when she doesn't need something? Pick the phone up when she wants to see how I'm doing? I'm not going to care anymore, I give up caring. But I won't sit around watching her throw her life away. She's too young to be sitting on her butt all day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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