Need to vent break up of an "open relationship"

[Ineedtotalk]

Well here is my story. It's been more than a year since I know her. She is much older than me. I started to date her because we got along really and well we had a lot in common. So we dated for maybe 6 months. It took me a while to realize that this relationship was a dead end relationship. Because eventually I would like to marry and have kids but she does not. So we talked and decided to break up. We broke up for a couple of months. Well one day I saw her at a dance club alone and I was alone too so we ended up getting back together.

But we knew that our relationship was a dead-end relationship. So we decided to have an "open relationship" so we would see each other occasionally made plans to go eat, watch, movies and dance. We also agreed that if she or I wanted to stared to date someone else we would let each other know to end our "open relationship".

Well now these last couple weeks she stated to act different. I would call her and she would not call me back or cancel plans that we made. We had planned a week in advance to meet on Saturday in a dancing club. Once there I called her and she told me she was not coming because she had to talk to her ex "that he want to talk to her". I asked her what is going? See did not want to tell me.

I asked is her if she is seeing someone else she should let me know. But she did not say anything. I was mad and I told her that we should stop seeing each other and I hung up. Next day I called her and she still would not tell me what is going on. She said that it is a personal problem and that she is "confused" but nothing conclusive. I feel betrayed, used and really hurt. I have feeling for her and I feel that just threw me away.

Now I don't know what to to next? Thanks for listening. ](*,)

[DN]

Open means she can see who she wants as well as you. So if you get her back it will mean back into the same relationship with the same rules.

 

The fact is - you don't want an open relationship and she won't give you an exclusive one.

 

So you need to decide if you can accept what she will offer or if you should walk away.