What is going on!?

[Cometcrater]

Agh! I'm so confused! I can't sleep and all I can think of is this. So basically there's this guy I've known for bout 2 years now, but we just became friends in November this year. He's a senior, I'm a sophomore. I have always been attracted to him since freshman year, but wrote it off, i figured he hated me (which is a long-er story). Anyways during winter break, he was single again and knew i liked him, in a summary, we made out, he asked me out, we dated for 2 weeks, he dumped me because he "likes me but not enough to feel comfortable dating me." (evidently he feels this way about all his friends?) The day after he broke up with me, he came over while i was home alone, we ended up on my bed making out again (just like the first time. Ya, I'm kinda a " * * * * ", oh well I've accepted it... But now we don't even talk anymore, and now i can't get him off my mind. I don't know what I like about him either! He's a total jerk sometimes, I feel awkward around him at times, like I'm never good enough, he acts on impulse wayyyy too much, and there's soo much more, but I just can't move on! WHY!? ](*,)

[liquer]

Sorry you feel this way and thanks for sharing this with us...gosh, why do you think you can't move on?

 

I wouldnt like to speculate on the reasons you have but why do you feel like you are just banging your head on a brick wall?

[Cometcrater]

I don't know why! I have 2 great guys I could go with, one being another ex.

But ya, I honestly don't know why!!

like 50% of the things about him i wouldnt look for in a guy,

but the other 50%.

he's smart and talented,

but he's not a family guy and has no concept for money,

he's self motivated

and he was a horrible boyfriend.

 

Ugh. My thoughts are just all scattered and mixed up.

I'm 15! We dated for 2 weeks! I should be over him! shouldn't I?...

[Larayn]

Hi Cometcrater

 

Trust me most of us have tried being with someone, we never thought we'd get over...but it happens! Just give it some time and at some point the "magic" about him will have disappeared and you will think "why did I ever think he was so great?"

But it does take time and good friends and you need to want to get over him (because if you kind of like being hung up on him, its only that much harder to get over him).

 

And you know what 50% is just not enough for anyone! No one is a 100% perfect, but there are some that are pretty close

 

I dont know if this helped you at all, but I hope it did, because its hard to just sit with your own thoughts and analyse it...

[Jonboy582]

I have seen this many times. And the bloke was generally using the girl for sex. She would say how much she hates the guy, then 2 days latter he will show a bit of affection she would sleep with him again and then he would ignore her until he next wanted sex. Although its not sex he has you where he wants you and im sure he knows he can have you whenever he wants. The main reason for your attraction is you want what you cant have, also you might feel like you have to prove yourself worthy of him. Because in him being a jerk and rejecting you its lowering your self worth and to get that back you feel you have to prove yourself to show you are not on his level. Confusing I know but hope you understand.

 

All in all, just carry on living your life and don't talk to or about him. In time things will fade. How about start dating one of these other guys, they might take your mind off things. I myself kept thinking about anouther girl, then started dating this other girl I liked. Now I look back on things and think what a fool I was wasting time thinking about this other girl who sucked as a gf. When I could have had this amazing girl the whole time ](*,)lol.