In a new place (literally and figuratively)

[rabidgrritz]

So I'll try to keep this short. HELP!

I'm in a rather uncomfortable situation at the moment, and am not sure how to deal with it. After three years together, I broke up with my girlfriend due to irreconcilable differences (or so i thought). My job requires me to be gone for months at a time, and it put a huge amount of stress on our relationship, and we werent seeing eye to eye on anything. We broke up in the midst of a huge argument, and didn't seak much for a couple of months. In the meantime, I struck up a very close friendship with on old mutual friend. Things were leaning towards a new relationship, because we both feel really strongly about each other, but the time wasn't right. (The present distance doesn't help, either.) After the breakup with the first girl, I took the geographical heartbreak cure and moved to another state and started back to school for another degree, and found out later that I left a great potential relationship with the second girl behind. I couldnt see the potential because of my confusion and grief over the first. Now I'm in a new place, and don't have many friends, because I'm naturally shy and reserved, and the culture is totally different. I feel like a sore toe in the midst of a crowd of thumbs. I can't find anyone I really relate to, even though I'm on the departmental softball team and have joined 2 new clubs. I've met a great girl, but I feel really awkward about the situation, because I'm still talking to the second girl, and have been talking to my ex a lot lately, and we're thinking of getting together next weekend. I need help figuring out how to break the ice at this new school, how to deal with the issues in these 3 relationships, and how to find some new firends. I'm tired of watching movies and drinking by myself on the weekends. Now for the kicker: I'm going back to work in May, and will be going even further away, and all of the contacts and relationships that I make here may end up being stopgap measures at best.

I know this is really long and convoluted, so sorry about that, but i'm at my wits' end here. Thanks, y'all.

[arctic_dude]

if you ask me i wouldnt get too attached to this new girl at your school, but it never hurts to become friends. but it does seem like you should start to rekindle your relationship between that 2nd person (the mutual friend), on the other hand if you are falling for your ex, i think since it obviously didnt work the last time, to restart would only make things worse

 

sorry if this doesnt help at all,

arctic_dude